Just thought I would pose this question. Medication is not a panacea for all of life's problems but when you go through an emotional trauma they can help you remain sain, steady and able to cope with life's ups and downs better. I recommend that you talk with you doctor and level with him what you are truly going through in life. They will probably recomend an anti depressent to help you. Take it. Don't feel like a failure. It shows you are a strong person when you know something is wrong and you need some help. It is okay to take something short term to help you. Stay in touch with your physician let them see if it is helping you and adjust your dosage as needed. Just some food for thought. If you all have any advice regarding this subject I'm sure that your post will be helpful. - Gypsy

I took paxil for a couple of months. For some it almost takes that long to take effect. I thought I needed it to ride out my first Christmas without the stbex and the kids. I rode it out before the pills actually had a chance to work. well, ride it out is not actually what happened. I was a mess and barely made it through. It shows courage to ask for help. Exercise is also a great anti-depressant.Friends and talking helps.Things will get better, it sounds like crap now but in time, things get better.

Goldenboy,
Glad that you took the step to help yourself. You were right in stating that it takes a while for the medication to kick into your system and to feel better and to be able to function again. Glad that you stepped up to the plate to make things better for you. Courage to believe in yourself and to ask for help when you need it is important. Best of luck to you. Hope that your life gets only better. - Gypsy

Thank You for the thoughts. Its only been 3 months and a week since I moved out. I have been dealing while the ex has been with her "soulmate" and not dealing as of yet. Her dealing of course is her problem now not mine.I took care of myself first and consider it the most unselfish act of all.Its like on an airplane when they say in case of emergency and the oxygen mask drops put it on yourself first and then take care of those around you. If you try to put the mask on your kids first and you pass out before that happens, who have you helped? I have dealt and now its off to court to protect my kids best interest.

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I to take anti depressants (celexa). I've taken them for ummm maybe 2 years. they do help you focus and calm the nerves. My mother and Grandma had past away about 2 years before i started them but when stbxh and I seperated and our house was being forclosed upon after the seperation. I couldn't take any more so I turned to anti- depressants. I stopped taking them about 3 months ago. Hoping i can get through the rest of the divorce without them. so we will see. they do help i would have never gotton through w/ out my "happy pills" as i call them.

Like sugarnik, I also took meds to help deal with things... I took Paxel for about 2 years maybe, my dad had lost his job that he had for 30+ years and my parents were going to have to decide if they should move away from family in order for my dad to have a job and stay with same company... I was devastated about things, was trying to plan my wedding and all, was just to much to handle for me! It helped me a lot to deal with things, mood swings, sadness and all sorts of stuff. Good news was my parents decided not to move and my dad was unemployed for about a year and then found a job he loves! I got married almost a year ago and some everything has worked out for the best!! I quit taking the medicine on my wedding day last year and now am going through some tough times now, my mother is ill and I wonder if I should be back on the medicine to help me?

My best advice to others " If you think you are alone, you're not" it is okay to ask for help and when you do you'll be glad you did!
I couldn't get through a day though w/o the help and love and support of my best friend SUGARNIK <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


Thanks for all you do for me pal... I love ya!!! Best friends forever and always!!!

I just started them two weeks ago, I think they are kicking in. I am able to focus more and feel less anxiety. I'm exercising and eating better. I'm separated, my father is dying of cancer and I have a little boy to take care of, plus run a business. I didnt' want to take them, a friend of mine who's studying to be a doctor recommended that I did. I was losing it with my husband, blowing up, seeing red, red, red... I think it was postpartum depression, plus the stress, wed' just moved too. We wound up fighting so bad that I moved out. I think I do have an anger issue myself, a short fuse. I have relatives on antidepressants for life, I think it runs in my family. Perhaps this is what I need to help with my anger and mood swings. I dont' know how long I'll take them, at least a few months to get through all of this, maybe longer, maybe for life. I felt so horrible about taking them, thank you for your post not to feel bad or like a failure....

Don't ever feel bad or like a failure b/c you take them. I am glad that i did take them, it helped a lot and I to had to have a friend tell me that i needed them!!

Hang in there and hopefully everything works out for you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />