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#785957 03/13/05 06:46 PM
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Hey guys,
Today is my 2nd unniversary, the date of my divorce 2 years ago. I would have been married 22 years....wow!
How am I doing?
Well, I feel a lot better now about my kids visiting with their dad and new wife. The kids really like her, and things seem to be ok over there...
God has done a good work in me...he is healing me and is pursuing me to have a close relationship with him...
Would I like to be in a relationship? Yes, I have to admit, I would like to date. However, I rarely meet single men my age, and I don't do the bar scene. With my kids being the ages they are: 18, 15, and 13...it's probably best for now that I focus on them.
But I am beginning to feel a void in my life and would like to at least have a friend that I could go out with.
How do I feel about my X? It's just recently that I have finally quit obsessing over the betrayal and the divorce. I no longer want him
back, and just pretty much feel neutral about him. In some ways I pity him for giving up a wonderful wife and 3 kids.
To anyone going through this: there is hope, there is life, and there is happiness. You can make it, and you will be better for it.
God bless
KK

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Congratulations! You have many blessings on this unniversary day!

I will give you a call either tonight or tomorrow buddy.

You're doing amazing stuff!

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What an uplifting post. It sounds like you are well on your way to the wonderful life that you deserve. Happy healing and good luck with all the life hands you!

Take care and God bless!
K

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Hi Kay - you sound great.... I emailed you ... Looking forward to catching up..

#785961 03/13/05 09:04 PM
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gOOD FOR YOU......I AM 45 ALSO, APPROACHING 5 YEARS AND LOOKS LIKE WILL NOT MAKE IT.....NO KIDS OF OUR OWN.......GOOD OR BAD NOT SURE FOR ME PROB GOOD, OFTEN WONDER WHAT MONSTER THAT WOULD HAVE CREATED.....I DONT KNOW WHY I AM HURTING AS I DO......CONTINUALLY.....JUST HOPE BURDENSOME FEELING WILL SOON BE RELIEVED....BEEN TRYING TO LET GO AND LET GOD HANDLE......THAT IS PROB MY BIGGEST PROB IF I COULD DO THAT I WOULD BE BETTER OFF.......BY NATURE LIKE KNOWING WHT WILL HAPPEN GOOD OR BAD....HATE LIMBO AND UNCERTAINTY.......BIG FLAW IN ME......PRAY FOR ME AND HAPPY FOR YOU THAT YOU ARE GETTING PAST YOUR PAST.......GOD BLESS YOU

#785962 03/15/05 08:23 AM
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Good for you! It seems we have a similar situation where your ex marries ow. There is always hope and it does take quite a bit of time. Heck I still care about my ex always will.

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Congratulations!! Hoping that you have a very bright future.

I just celebrated my first unniversary on Wednesday. Since I was the one to initiate the proceedings, and haven't looked back, I was very happy to have hit this milestone. I stuck things out with this man for over 20 yrs. He was emotionally abusive and looking back, I can't believe what I put up with. I was expected to ask permission to go places, he never let me go anywhere like visiting relatives out of state, have a job, go to school... unless it benefitted him. Now that 16 mos have passed since our separation, I'm really missing having a man in my life. And being a single parent can be very difficult, though it is certainly easier than when I was married. Where does one meet eligible bachelors, however?? I am not a church-goer, I go to college but most everyone is younger than me. And the guys I met via eHarmony were scared off because I have a large family.

Well anyway, here's to a bright future for all of us!!!

Annie

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Hi Annie,
You sound like you are doing well. Yes, I also feel it is hard to be alone. But my faith tells me it will not be forever. How old are your kids? I agree that it turns some men away when they hear that you have so many children. I think it is especially hard to meet eligible guys who will want a 40 something woman with 3 kids. I somehow feel that I will have to wait until at least 1 or 2 of mine get into college.
I haven't really had any luck on eharmony, and some of the other online places seem a little scary....I mean, these people are strangers to us. Be careful.
Pray a lot....keep a journal. I find that God does read my journal. I have asked him to either send me someone, or to please take away the urgent desires for now...until he is ready...
I still think the best place to meet men is church. I am going to an areawide singles group convention in Dallas area the end of April. Where are you from?
God bless!
KK

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by kk2002:
<strong> I am going to an areawide singles group convention in Dallas area the end of April. Where are you from?
God bless!
KK </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The church I losely attend is going to that convention and then later in April they are doing their own for the H-town area. Here is a link if you are intertested.

http://www.firstcolonychurch.org/detail.asp?xt=calendar&id=417

#785966 03/22/05 08:45 AM
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Reading about Houston & Church Single groups made me want to mention Lakewood Church. They have a huge singles group. I do not live in Houston & I am still trying to hang in their & save my marriage, but I have a friend who has visited it and she says it is great. I have visited the Church before and love it. The pastor is Joel Olsteen. You can check it out on TV or the web site if interested.


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