Well Georgia (duh - I kinda figured that was where you were from),
http://www.legis.state.ga.us/legis/GaCode/Title19.pdf That is the link to your domestic relations code for the state of Georgia.
Have you hired a lawyer that does mainly divorce? This is pretty important - a lawyer whose practice is mainly divorce will know the statutes, procedures, and local judges and will be able to give you the best advice.
That being said - there is no such thing as slavery anymore in the grand old state of Georgia, and asking for lifelong support is essentially her making you into a slave... Remember that. Even if she has never worked she has the capacity to work and personally I think no one owes anyone a living.
As I was scrolling through that document I linked for you I had to laugh - I had forgotten that I was divorced in Georgia from my first marriage. New Brunswick - Glenn county I think lol.
Oh ask your lawyer - sometimes infidelity plays a big role in support if you want to divorce for "grounds" - your lawyer should know if it is important or if it is one of those things that judges don't want to hear about any more. This could be something you could use to threaten her with if she doesn't want to accept a reasonable settlement. Do you have evidence of her wayward behavior?
19-5-3 page 15 outlines the grounds for divorce in Georgia. Not using grounds is a "no fault" divorce and is quicker but she may ream you on support.
OH DUDE are you lucky!!!!!!!! 19-6-1 Adultery if you have evidence can CANCEL support (alimony)!!!
You need evidence! Weigh your options - how much spousal support = hiring a detective to get evidence.
Now - let me say this. It may be that your affections for your wife and your sense of responsibility would cause you to want to help her out while she gets on her feet. I'm offering this information to you for two reasons. One is that I was a BS and I am angry that someone who would behave as a WS would then ask for support. The other reason is that you should get evidence and perhaps use it to force her to accept a 3 year alimony and selling the house. You need leverage my man.
The bad news is that you might have to pay her attorney fees - so there is another reason why you want leverage to make her settle amicably or you will be footing the bill for some extemsove lawyer fees.
Sunny
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