<BR>Update,<P>I was feeling very frustrated yesterday because H keeps saying OW was just a friend. We had a two hour marriage counseling appt today (5th one) H admitted that she was his addiction. When I posted yesterday about wanting to contact OW, H said that would cause contact for him and I shouldn't tempt him with his "addiction." Uggghhhh!!!!<P>Counselor said it was a breakthru in H's denial, that calling her an addiction admits that they were a lot more than just friends, and that I should be happy with that. What???? That she was his source of comfort, blah, blah,blah<P>Counselor also said it was obvious OW wanted more from H because of her voice mail stating "I think about you all the time" and that she wanted to talk to him. So counselor had my H write a note telling OW that he got her voice mail but that he was not ready to talk to her yet. Counselor says that there will be contact again because she is pregnant, and that the note will buy us some time until H and I can figure out how to deal with her. I fear that the note will only cause her to contact H. But we'll see.....<P>I said at the end of the appt I was afraid H was angry and just wants to leave me, so the counselor asked him. H stated that he was tempted, he was feeling pushed away by my anger and frustration, so I started crying saying I didn't want to push him away, it's just that I feel so crazy, and I feel like I'm dying inside. I just don't know how I'm going to get beyond all this. It hurts like hel* I just want back the person that I thought I married, I don't want another woman and "step-child" in my life. H says I'm bringing all this pain upon myself, I screamed, NO YOU DID THIS TO ME!!! I WANT MY LIFE BACK!!!!<P>Thanks for letting me vent, again, please send prayers....