Dear Paul,<P>I'm sure I'm not alone in my initial reaction when I read your post... something along the lines of ... "yep, thought so"... so, no, you sure didn't shock me any.<P>Whether I approve or not doesn't matter a lick, and I certainly WILL NOT judge you... clearly, you always loved your W, and you also feel that her 2nd marriage was not binding, nor valid... there are others like you, Frank (PLEASE HELP) is one. He is remarrying his wife after a similiar situation (although she did an annulement and divorce, I believe). I wished him peace and a renewed marriage and a new beginning, and I would like to be able to with the same to you and Amanda.<P>But still, I am worried about your heart being crushed into a kazillion pieces. Amanda has NOT shown you that she is a changed woman... why is she wearing the engagement ring, and why did you have to hide the wedding ring? If she seriously thought she made a mistake and was willing to come back and try, why didn't she give those rings back to her H, or throw them away herself? <P>Is she in counseling, Paul? Are you? This is sooooooo deeply troubling to me... you guys need HELP to navigate this VERY VERY VERY rocky road she created. Please, please, get some help with this.<P>Paul, I have SUCH a soft spot in my heart for you. You are so sweet, and yet, maybe you remind me of my ex, who is such a tormented man. I can't help him, so I'll help you... I really don't have any idea.<P>What I do know is this: Amanda needs to understand the gravity of her decisions and she does NOT at this time. You rescued her, yet again.<P>Paul, be VERY CAREFUL with that precious hear of yours -- PLEASE.<P>I'll be praying for you and your family, and I send my love,<p>[ October 19, 2001: Message edited by: Nyneve ]