I posted in the infedelity forum about my husbands previous affair...it was a one-time thing (with a friend of mine), and it happened over 5 years ago. We've been doing wonderfully ever since. But something happened over the weekend that really has me upset, and I don't know if I am over-reacting, or if I have something to be upset about...and I don't know if I am posting this in the right section or not, so if not, please tell me where to go with this issue.
My husband came home from work 2 weeks ago and told me that on August 20th, he had a going away party to go to after work. He works with Amish people (he's a driver for an Amish construction company)...and one of the amish guys was leaving the company for a different career. So...all the amish guys, and my husband, were going to meet at another amish guys house after work on Friday...eat some pizza, play some volleyball and/or baseball, and just hang out for a couple of hours. No problem. Not a big deal at all.
Until.....
He came home early on Friday because we had serious rain storms...he talked about this party, and said that his boss would be there with the paychecks, so he wouldn't be able to get his check cashed until Saturday...again, not really a big deal. Until he mentioned (or let slip) that he hoped that this one guys wife would be bringing her special ice cream dish. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I said "Oh, so the wives and girlfriends are invited?" He gave me a look and said "Well, yeah" So I kind of went off on him...and he said "Well would you have wanted to go?" Of course! I love going out with my husband...any chance I get..and he KNOWS this! This was around 5pm, and he was to be at the party at 6pm. He said "Well can you find a sitter?" I said "Well not now, but if you had told me 2 weeks ago that the wives were invited, I could have found one." I asked him why he didn't want me to go...he said "It's not like that." I said "Well for whatever reason, you obviously don't want me there, or you would have told me 2 weeks ago to find a sitter." He just got quiet...didn't really say anything after that. I got upset and left the room. My feelings were really hurt. But on the other hand, he knows that I do feel left out at these kinds of gathering that he is invited to, because all of the other women are amish and I don't really have anything in common with them. He came to me later and said that he would probably just stay home, that he didn't really want to go anyway, but he had to get his paycheck. That upset me all over again, because he DID want to go, even before he knew that his boss would be passing out the paychecks at the party...the only reason the boss was doing that was because they had all been sent home early due to the rain. And my husband had been talking about this party for 2 stupid weeks. I was so upset I told him I didn't care if he went or not...it was his decision.
He did end up going, and left the house around 6:30pm...he was home by 10pm...and I paid close attention to details...he didn't smell like perfume or different soap...he hadn't really dressed up to go. He didn't have alcohol on his breath (we aren't really drinkers, anyway). He did bring his check home, and he did take the company truck instead of one of our vehicles. So I really don't believe that he was with another woman. But I am hurt that for some reason he didn't want me to attend this party with him. This is out of character for him, as we rarely go out unless we are together.
What should I think here? Am I over-reacting?
