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I don't post here much, but in the beginning when I first found out about ow/oc, this place was a life saver for me!! <p>I just wanted to let everyone know that I found out last night that oc is NOT my H!!!!!!!!! I have been living the last 7 months thinking it was so it's going to take me awhile to get over this and I do still have to live with the fact that he had an A, but this news will make rebuilding so much easier I think.<p>We have been doing really good and have been going to counseling so I think I am beginning to see a light at the end of the tunnel!<p>For all of you that are living with not knowing, I'm here to tell you there is always a possibility! I will continue to pray for all of you wonderful and strong people here and never forget you! I wish you all nothing but the best Lord knows we deserve it!<p>Hugs
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Jules,<p> C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S<p>I'm so very happy for you. Hearing news of your "pardon" from this type of life brought tears to my eyes.<p>We are still waiting for our DNA results. Perhaps there is hope.<p>Tell me more... was OW very sure that your H was the father? Did she insist she KNEW it was his? Was OW very eager for DNA?<p>Just curious. Thanks for resparking my hope. Z. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
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Hey zebrababy!<p>I remember you, you were one of the ones that helped me out when I first came here!<p>Yes she was sooo insistant it was my H, she said she hadn't slept with anyone else. Well I found out last night that she had numerous b/f's she was sleeping with! (imagine that me and H should probably go get tested)<p>Now, as for the DNA, I haven't spoken to the ow since she was pregnant but we do know that the oc was given another mans last name and someone told me last night who the father really was. I don't want to give out "details" for fear of lurking, but please please know that there is always HOPE!!!<p>I will pray for you and your H that you receive the same news I did! When do you expect your results to be in??
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Jules,<p>we expect the results in the mail any day. so keep your fingers crossed for me. and pray too!<p>my OW actually lived with her boyfriend at the time of A. She claims to have been using condoms with him. BF believed it was his until 6mths. old. If he believed it, then she probably wasn't using protection. So I figure I have a 50/50 change to come out on top with this one.<p>Again, Congrats,
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I, along with everyone here, I'm sure, will keep you guys in our prayers!!! Let me know as soon as you find out!!<p>Our ow lived with her then H at the time this happened and plus the date she claimed to get pg didn't add up to the time she delivered so I kind of had my suspicions. <p>I think these horrible women will say and do anything to try to hang on to the person they really want to be with. It's just so sad and pathetic. I can't imagine having to do that to try and get a man...and so many end up losing their oh so "commited" MM anyway.<p>Anyway, like I said I'm praying for you sister! And I will continue to do so.<p>
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jules, congradualtion! At least I still can hope that OC is not my H. Thanks for sharing. You gave me a little hope today.<p>Dawn
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Wow...<p>I'm happy for you and your H to be able to recover and now hopefully you can take steps to protect your marriage from this ever happening again as best you can!! It's still very sad for the OC that his/her mom doesn't know who their real father is. What a tragic spot for any mom to be in, how ever self-inflicted, it's still sad. Prayers for all involved!!
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Jules27,<p>Congratulations! I remember you from when you used to post. Every one on this board has had this dream and you are the second one I remember to escape this.<p>When our DNA testing was being done, I was hoping against hope that we would get a "get out of jail free" card. I knew it wasn't likely, but I was hoping. It was very disappointing the day the results came back. I know how happy we would have been if it had come out like yours did.<p>Best of luck and love to you both on rebuilding your marriage.<p>MJ
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Thank you to everyone!<p>Dawn, I have followed your story b/c you and I were pretty much in the same boat...so even though in your situation you may never know for sure at least you don't have all the other hassles that come with knowing that it is.<p>BTDT, Thank you for your kind words...my comment about the OW was not directed to you, I value the type of person you are and how you have handled things. Oh and by the way...she knows who the father is but the lurking thing keeps me from posting those details. Thanks again!! <p>MJ, You are a very strong woman and very admirable! I hope things are going well for you and your new little family!! Thanks for everything...like I said, I don't post much but I am always reading and all the people here have been awesome!<p>Take care Jules
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Jules, I'am really doing the dance two of you in in one day this is great news you and Zebra have got to feel like flying. YEEEEEEEEE HAAAAAAAA . Go have fun what a great day!
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Dear Jules,<p>What a great day for BS's -- two in our group got a "Get Out of Jail Free" card!<p>I am so delighted for your good news. I can only imagine how you and Zebrababy are feeling today! <p>As I told Zebra, now go and live your life with God's blessing -- you and your H have been given another chance -- I will pray for you both that you live a long and happy life together and put all this unpleasantness behind you.<p>God bless you both,
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flowerseed and heavenly,<p>Thank you so much for all the support! I never really posted much before all of this happened b/c H and counselor thought I was obsessed with coming here and reading every post and it was only doing harm to the rebuilding. But now that I have the latest news...I am going to post more 1. about me and H recovery and 2. to tell all the newbies such as butterfly how important it is to not trust a word these women say.<p>Again, thank you!
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Congrats Jules!<p>Amazing that 2 of our own.. have escaped this.<p>You are in my prayers!
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Hiya, Not taken personal in the least... Just sad how we can sometimes mess up our lives and REALLY sad when kids are dragged through our stuff too... Ya know? Poor kids!! <img src="graemlins/teary.gif" border="0" alt="[Teary]" /> <p>Praying that we all survive LIFE's messes! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
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