My apologies to anyone who answered the original Roll Call. It was brought to my attention that some members couldn't accurately answer with the options given. Plus I though we could add more interesting stuff.

I'll put a deadline of a week to get a good feel and post the results.

Thanks again for your patience. This was my first time posting a poll.

Z.

Wow, Z, you are getting really good at this. The questions were perfect. The only one I had trouble with was the married one. I am divorced, but it is a faux divorce and neither of us recognize the divorce and continue on as married, so I answered married.

I was surprised to see so many from the south, too...thought most were yanks.

Catnip =^^=

Zebra,

Thanks for adding that option. And no, I dont think anyone will mind that you made a second one.

Thanks again! I do appreciate it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Ann

Ok, stupid me, clicked on Alaska instead of HI! Of course that's also going to change here in another month, so I guess it doesn't matter! It took me a second to realize what I had done, and I think it was when Abbi came up to me, asking for cookies(which are actuatlly fruit and cereal bar/bites). Sorry if that messes anything up. Hopefully no one else votes for either place, and you can just switch the results for AK to HI!

And, these questions were more detailed too! Great new poll!

Love,

Tigger

Just a comment on one of your questions....

I checked yes for visitation. H visits. I don't. I have no desire to know OC.

Take care,
Why

upsie dupsie.

(my mom used to say that when she woke me up!)

Interesting poll... I'm wondering if I'm the only one out here besides pops with a grown OC??? Hmmm... Oh well, I'll just wait til someone else shares their story. I'm NOT going to do a poll! This was fun tho, thanks Z! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Interesting that there are as many lurkers as posters!?!? Another thing that makes me go "hmmm..." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ August 22, 2002, 11:40 PM: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</small>

Z,
About #12, I was forced to answer, but in reality, I did NOT plan A or B... you might say my Wandering Spouse Plan A'd, because I was more likely to leave him than vice-versa!

Interesting poll, Z <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Gosh---I didn't realize how many 'chicks' hang out here... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

There really wasn't a way to capture raising the OC (I picked visitation).

The comment about lurkers is a good one. I occasionally remind everyone around this place that for every poster, there are probably 5-10 people who never post at all. They learn from reading and trying to apply the policies (which is why I like to see less venting and more 'marriagebuilding'). I can think of a half-dozen cases where someone who I was completely unaware of came to the board to say "thanks for saving my marriage". And it talking to Steve Harley---he's willing to put the credit for the good that we do into the hundreds.

It's pretty powerful---so go out there and do good!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

BDDT
I probably have the oldest OC (29 years old) right now. I think Pops' OC is much younger if I'm not mistaken.
I am just surprised that there are only a few men who have responded.
God Bless

ULA

<small>[ August 23, 2002, 09:54 AM: Message edited by: Usedlongago ]</small>

I wasn't sure how to post concerning visitation. My husband has visitation but we have never exercised that right because HE chose not to have contact with HIS child. So indicated visitation.
Anyone else in that position?

Z Leave it to you to post a poll like this!

I'm looking forward to results.

Texasgirl, H has visitation rights too. We do not do it because of ow/maniac...and our recovery.

We never plan to do it.

For the record....H wishes oc would be adopted to alleviate all pain, guilt, and wishes for oc to leave us alone. He NEVER intended a new life to come from this travesty of lies.

Ow decided oc would bring him closer to her.....how ridiculous...huh?

Now nmarried ow has FOUR kids and no father for any....toooooo sad......child abuse, nes pas????

Oh! Save me from any more comments...

love
Debi

I have a question My H and are really at a stalemate. He no longer is in the relationship with OW.

Basicly, I think it makes him unconfortable talking anything about relationship talks. Mean while I'm stuck on what to do next.

I purchased the book Surviving An Affair I'm reading it now. I want some results, what do I do now?

We talk, but our conversation are general sometimes he talks about OW, he talks about his dauighter alot he misses his daughter he say.

I ask him don't he misses OW he said no. I think he sufer from character disorder he is a great pretender. I don't know how to reach a person like that. I'm considering going in the dark no contact until he get's intouch with his feelings.

I need replies.
He say his daughter shows him love OW didn't she had issues.

One more question,

What are the MB principals?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Usedlongago:
<strong>BDDT
I probably have the oldest OC (29 years old) right now. I think Pops' OC is much younger if I'm not mistaken.
I am just surprised that there are only a few men who have responded.
God Bless

ULA</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">YES! YES! YES! ULA--I was thinking about YOU when I wrote pops by mistake!

Yes, your OC is 10 years older than mine. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well the results are in. Thanks to everyone who voted on the poll. I'll have to create another this weekend. I thought it was fun too.

My observations ... how very many spouses are NOT using MB principles.

I guess that and the fact that there are sooooo many lurkers, blew me away.

Sorry the questions didn't have answers to every situation out there. It's tough with so many different senarios.

Thanks again.
Z.