My SO's ex had an affair several years ago, which destroyed their marriage. He and his ex have joint custody of their now 12 yr old daughter. In reading the article about the lessons children learn, the child is exhibiting many of these "lessons". I think she has some idea of her mother's affair, but she has no real perspective from her father. He's said he would discuss it with her when she gets a little older when she'll understand better. Also, his ex is remarried and continuing to exhibit the behaviors herself. What can we do at Dad's house to deal with the aftermath of her mother's behavior? And how much can we do about her acting out the "lessons" already?<P>------------------<BR>Lori