I am looking for couples that have attended a MB weekend seminar. I was really wanting to go to this one in Orlando coming up next month...but with 5 kids we just can't handle that expense right now. But for the future I would like to know how people felt about the weekend experience and if it really helped their relationship out. Thanks for any insight you have!

I haven't been to one, but would love to go someday also. The next one is too soon for me, with baby coming. Like you though, would love to hear some input from any that have attended in the past.

The only kind of marriage type of weekend we've been to discussed a bunch of fluff and stuff, no hard hitting issues, and definitely no tools. Went home feeling good and all, but with no real substance to help us out. The MB weekend description sounds marvelous, and worth every penny.

Aut~ that is what I was thinking was it sounds like MB weekend had a lot of substance and you left with a lot of tools and a place to get support afterwards. I looked and they are going to have one in the spring...location not given yet. Hopefully we can make that one! Even though I liked the idea of going to Orlando, just to soon for us too. Your new arrival is coming soon isn't it? I bet your husband will surprise you how he is able to bond with your new little one. I am still surprised how much my H loves them. No one would ever be able to tell they were not his biologically. He truly loves and cares for them. Now I just need help with the issues we had before all this!

FT&NS~

I know this is OT, but since you mentioned it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ...
I have no reason but to feel very positive about my H bonding w/ OC, he is showing all signs of true love already. I'm still amazed by that.

My biggest concern (besides health worries for OC) is just what you mentioned, "no one would ever be able to tell they were not his biologically". I have been overwhelmed with thoughts of everyone recognizing or at least sensing immediately my H is not the bio. Esp. his family. As far as our circle of friends, we know a lot of ppl. that have had boys lately. It is remarkable how much they all resemble their dads. All of our friends, as well as us comment about the look alike father and sons. It scares me just thinking about it. Do you think I'm worrying unnecessarily? Do your twins look enough like you and your other children? God, how I hate my lies, they touch everything and everyone!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I told my H just this morning how free I have felt ever since telling him the truth, but that I feel so awful and deceptive as far as everyone else is concerned. He, as always put it simply, "Don't worry, no one will notice, and this is something that is just between you and me anyway".

I know what you mean about needing help w/ the old issues before A/OC...as wonderful as we were this morning, this evening has been kinda icky. That's what got me thinking more about the MB weekend.

Take good care,
~AD

I understand your fears on the physical looks. The twin boy looks different than the other kids. The twin girl blends well with my other kids. I have been pretty open with people close to us. But I have an aunt that doesn't know, and a mother of children my kids play with sit and look at the boy and try to figure out where his looks come from. It is a little hard. My H has never seen MM and one of his first comments was that the boy must take after him. I think most everyone will not voice their thoughts even if they think he doesn't resemble your H. My in-laws know the truth and I think once they seen how my H accepted the twins they just followed suit. I am worried about in the future they don't recognize them as the same since we have a large family it would be easier not to treat them as well as the other kids...like in presents etc. But since there is such an age gap I am hoping we can use that as justification. I am still not sure how I am going to handle everything in the future. Some things you just need to take a wait and see approach.