I have read K's story. When I was a "lurker" back in Dec. when my whole world fell apart. It was great reading it from a perspective I couldn't imagine finding in myself back then. Make sense?

Thanks for recognizing what we as WOMEN should know. We can help each other, regardless of titles we give each other. Life is a series of lessons.

I know there are people here on this board who do not believe who I am. But I shouldn't care. I have still learned from some of them. Niosgirl was the first post I remember reading about a woman accepting and LOVING her OC with such a passion. It was one of those..."if she can do it..so can I" moment. Just knowing I wasn't alone wanting to love that baby girl. That to hell with whatever my friends and family thought. I was going to do things the way my heart was telling me I should.

The odd thing was....My family and friends came along for the ride with OC. They accept her. Some it took longer...I'm still working on my mom...but they learned a new "life" lesson from me. That's the beauty of sharing. You just never know when it touches someone else.

ent

Thanks for sharing that. I am still struggling with what I want to do as far as the OC. I keep going back and forth.

So far I have not seen him or the mother. Now she called and does not want my H at the babies heart surgery. Were not sure as to how much all is true. Anyhow I would love know contact but I know if my H test positive in DNA he could not handle that as his own bio father was not around until he died two years ago.

I think your a strong women for accepting the oc. I want very much to be like you but I also want to protect our 4 children as well. I don't want them to get the message that this is an OK thing to do. Not that they would but I want better for there relationships to come. Maybe this will even make them stronger persons. I know I'm not the judge and can't say for sure how it will play out.

Anyhow keep posting ...you giv eme strength to make the descision I want o make rather then listening to those around me.

Lori

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Niosgirl was the first post I remember reading about a woman accepting and LOVING her OC with such a passion. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">AWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That was perhaps one of the sweetest things I've ever had said about me! Thanks!

(you should've seen mijo last night....he is such a happy little muffin!)

Ent,

I am very glad you got to see K's post. It seems to me that many here really don't want to learn or grow, and yet if ever there was a position in life that required it, this site is it.

I do hope that something I said was of use, although I suspect it was all lost in the chatter. Oh well, all one can do is post, one cannot make anyone pay attention.

I do hope things go well for you. I admit I don't know much of your story. I don't read this portion much any longer, it has become a place that is not useful to participate in. I find that sad, but it is what it is.

Must go,

JL

Well..I always look at it this way. If I can be of some use to ONE person. Then that's ok.

Thanks again for reminding me of K.

love,
ent

Where is K's story? or member # so I can search?
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Here is the short version of K's story

K's Story

JL

JL~
You beat me to it by literally one minute--my hold up was having to log back in, (ARGGH!), after I spent 10 stinkin' minutes looking for K's link. I thought it would be easiest to go back to the place I remembered him providing it to a BH, a few pages back.

*edited to say, (and perhaps someone has already mentioned it on the ideas for welcome thread), we should provide K's story as recommended reading.

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