Chris recommended that I do not do a Plan B letter because of my situation. Tigger suggested that I do. I have not sent the one I posted here since it's not a very good one. I have, however, deleted the accounts where he has sent me e-mails and instant messages. Should or should I not write a plan B letter as you can see in my situation?

The very last message I got from him was that his new Guatemalan girlfriend was coming and staying at our home. He said he was gonna take her to the practice firing range so that she could protect herself and not to answer the door to anyone. I don't know what he's told her about me. But going to the practice range - I don't know what that is about. He's also told me that he's changed the locks in our home and that he's hidden my car so that I won't go get it, even though he's got his own truck. He keeps posting that I'm a b*tch and an out right wh*re, and that he's gonna make sure I get what I deserve.

He plans to have children with this woman. We were married for 6 years and always tried to have children. We never did get pregnant. After the affair I got pregnant. He says if he can't have children, he will adopt one with her. He's sold all the furniture in the home including the baby's crib and kept the money for an apartment in Guatemala with furnishings and all. I couldn't take any more of his e-mails and instant messages that's why i deleted the accounts. I would tell myself I wasn't gonna go view them, but I always would. this forces me not to look at them.

Is it wise of me to stop contact with him without sending a plan B letter? Please help me with your input!

I think it is wise at this point to have no direct communication with him. Good for you to delete those accounts. Is your attorney or law enforcement available to get you the car or money from him? Have you told your attorney that H is abusive? Do you have friends or family in your old state that can verify what he is telling you without putting them in danger? Please just do what you need to do to protect you and your child.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by faithful follower:
<strong> I think it is wise at this point to have no direct communication with him. Good for you to delete those accounts. Is your attorney or law enforcement available to get you the car or money from him? Have you told your attorney that H is abusive? Do you have friends or family in your old state that can verify what he is telling you without putting them in danger? Please just do what you need to do to protect you and your child. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Right now we want to get the house sold. My attorney advised me to keep on paying on the car until we can get to it. Since I'm the primary signer on the car, he says I'm entitled to it and since he already has a vehicle of his own. I haven't really asked anyone in the old state to go by as not to put them in danger. When the time comes I guess I'm going to send hopefully my brother to get it. I hope he hasn't destroyed my car. My attorney does know about the violence that's why we did an emergency protective order on him which he still refuses to receive. He hasn't been served and the case has been continued twice. We are trying to get juristiction here in this state even though we are residents of the other state. I think under the child kidnapping prevention act, my son and I qualify to get jurisdiction here. I've done some reading on it.