This was posted by an OW on another board in response to BS being involved with H/OW/OC:

"I personally think- it can not be right to share children. I mean- if we can share children- why can't we share husbands? More love we can give- better it will be for H! Love does not hurt anyone! It is best for a child to have father in his life- why should child see his father with some "OTHER WIFE", why can H spend time with XOW and child as a family once in a while? Child don't need 2 homes. If H has visitations 8 days a month, he should spend them with OC's family, so at less 8 says a month child can have 2 parents together, not separate in 2 homes- what good would it do, to learn for a child, that his mother is not welcomed to family events that child is welcomed?"

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Just wanted to see what you all think about this!

I cannot even get outraged by such absurd comments because:

1)they are laughably absurd
2)I am not familiar w/ the entire context
3)I don't care
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I know it may seem so crazy, what you read on other boards--------but.....let's just leave it all alone & let the inmates who want to, run THAT asylum!

Lets focus on OUR situations so we/you/me can give & receive the support that we deserve to each other.
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This is not a perfect world, we are NOT all CREATED equal, although we strive for equality, life is NOT fair, there ARE idiots IN the world, there are BAD drivers, evil people, unexplainable world tragedies, you CAN'T do everything you WANT & sometimes you WON'T be able to BE whatever you want when you grow up, somethings CANNOT be fixed & sometimes there are no EASY answers & there ARE stupid questions!

SUCK IT UP! LOL

OC will NOT be a part of an intact family w/ both of their parents IF H & W maintain their marriage & family AND OW will NEVER be welcome @ ANY family events BUT OC ALWAYS will be. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Like I told gio-stop reading over there & bringing back that nonsense! LOL


xoxoxoxoxxoxo
kt

I used to read there more- but now I don't cause the mods completely erase me. They delete anything I say - and I am was so very not nasty, BELIEVE me.. so why bother when I cannot respond! At least they let you post when you feel like it!!! LOL.. ! At least the girls from THERE can post HERE -- may not always get a good response, but who cares- we all can hold our own ! But their wussy arses are so afraid to hear the TRUTH! EEEW I'M MELTING is what they'd say if some good were spread ova-there!

Otherwise reading there for some is NOT good at ALL!!! But for me--- its complete and utter entertainment- It's like watching a TV show about another country and you are amazed that people "really live like that".. !

Giovanna - I'm not sure which board this person found this but it wasn't where you think. And as an xOW - all I have to say is Holy Guacamole!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> That person is delusional!!!

Hello Everyone,

All I can say is " GOOD GRIEF "!!!!!!! What is this world coming too????

LOL....u gotta laugh! Unbelievable!!!

Take care.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by JoshMom:
<strong> Giovanna - I'm not sure which board this person found this but it wasn't where you think. And as an xOW - all I have to say is Holy Guacamole!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> That person is delusional!!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yah, I didn't see anything even remotely resembling those comments 'there' either.

Whatever. Keep the nonsense where it belongs...which is whereever it came from.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by JoshMom:
<strong> Giovanna - I'm not sure which board this person found this but it wasn't where you think. And as an xOW - all I have to say is Holy Guacamole!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> That person is delusional!!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">JM, my thoughts exactly and I read the same post and thought OMG!!! I even spoke my mind on it as much. I was just like are you for real? I'll pm you later on it.

I read that also and thought she was crazy. But, this person has said crazy things before. I personally do not think she is very educated, and try to ignore her posts.

Nah, She was probably just raised in a bigamist community.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

"Whatever. Keep the nonsense where it belongs...which is whereever it came from."

Above quoted from KTBunch.....

I only posted it because it was a response to one of my posts on another board.

I am new here, and I don't know any of you....but let me tell you something, for a board that is supposed to be supportive, you guys can sure make a person feel like an absolute peon.

First off, nonsense it may be, but it upset me. ******edit******
Thanks for making me feel welcome (dripping with sarcasm) in a place I am supposed to feel safe. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

<small>[ January 09, 2005, 07:01 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong> why should child see his father with some "OTHER WIFE", why can H spend time with XOW and child as a family once in a while? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That's a hoot! I'm sure glad I don't read the board that came from, because I sense a severe lack of brain power from that direction. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
1. The wife is not "some other wife," she is THE WIFE.
2. H, XOW/OW and OC are not a family. This statement shows XOW/OW is living in a dream world.
3. XOW/OW should have considered all this before bearing the child of a married man. If she couldn't handle a wife, or if she wanted a two-parent family, she should have steered clear.

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OK, so I went to one of those TOW boards to find out what all the whooplah was and you're all right, stay away!

I was TOW twice in my very early twenties with 2 different men who were physically separated from their wives. Each only lasted a few months, with me ending them, but they were very intense and emotionally hard to let go, though I knew it was the best for all concerned.

Now that my husband has had an A while we were separated it makes it easier not to toally hate TOW, and it probably helps that she's not psycho.

But those women over there have all kinds of justifications for their very bad behavior. I knew it was "wrong" when I did it in my "youth", but I didn't understand fully until I was married myself. And to say its OK because of the intensity or passion or whatever is ridiculous. I've heard it said here before, but all of that is "unreal" as in, a fantasy and therein lies the romanticism and I guess, how we lost our scruples. Every single one of those women should end it...NOW, and grow up. If it was "meant to be" he'll leave his wife and come to you later. They blame so much on others it's ridiculous and I hate to say it but I can't help to thin that they are emotionally immature. Unbelievable that someone should have sympathy for someone creating their own and others' pain. OK, I'm done.

I must agree here...please keep the drama over there...people over HERE are in enough pain as it is! Dont add to it by bringing the pain here...that post didn't make me laugh...it hurts to to see that these OW's actually believe what they are writing...It is bewildering what they think...no disrepect to you morning after, or whoever posted this...but it really shouldn't be brought to this board...there are enough OW's here already such as cheerfullittleone who causes enough distress...

That comment was NOT posted on TOW.

Please refrain from assuming/saying it was.

Thanks!
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by TheMourningAfter:
<strong> "Whatever. Keep the nonsense where it belongs...which is whereever it came from."

Above quoted from KTBunch.....

I only posted it because it was a response to one of my posts on another board.

I am new here, and I don't know any of you....but let me tell you something, for a board that is supposed to be supportive, you guys can sure make a person feel like an absolute peon.

First off, nonsense it may be, but it upset me. ******edit******
Thanks for making me feel welcome (dripping with sarcasm) in a place I am supposed to feel safe. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You can feel safe here.
You will be even MORE safe if you avoid bringing posts from other boards onto this board. IT distracts from the real issues @ hand........dealing w/ OC that resulted from a spouses A.

The quote that you posted.....was some anonymous person right? So how can it personally affect YOU or YOUR journey through this maze?

As someone else said.....(I'm paraphrasing) these kinds of threads CAN attract raving OW & dissenters & believe me, that is the last thing we need here.

I know you are newly into this. My posts were not meant to hurt or offend you. I was being sarcastic towards the quote you posted (& the absurd logic behind it), NOT you.

I know that cross-posting & quoting from other boards will not be productive & can create a board war-------------then you will REALLY find out what it is like ot NOT feel 'safe' on this board.

THere are many posters who refuse to post on this board anymore for those exact reasons.

THere is another well known OW board (where it has been pointed out this particular quote did not come from) that also has an OC forum. And it is thier board to recieve support for the situation they are in & from others who have 'been there', just as WE have THIS place to go to, to get support from those that have been there & w/ the same experiences ect.

DO you see how we thought that your quote was from 'there'? IN many of these cases posters can go back & forth then you get harrassers from both sides just going back & forth to cause trouble & the people who need support, like you, are unable to get it.

IT can get very ugly.

So when I said to leave the nonsense where it belongs.....I meant to leave it (that quote) wherever it came from.

I did not mean that YOUR situation was nonsense.

I hope you can understand that.
I am sorry for this misunderstanding.


sincerely,
kt