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No offfense taken. That is something to think about. We had contact but now we are in no contact. H says he would like to take a non-legal paternity test, you know the ones you do yourself, but we dont get her anymore so we havent done it. yYou are right.

I had accepted the fact taht she is his becuse she looks like ALL his other children, all his children look like him, she has certain trademarks all his other children have.

You are right. No offense taken. Have you seen my post/PIc on SBF?

H wanted a paternity test done from the moment he found out about OC. OW is married. We paid for the test by a private lab (650.00) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
But we had the results in 3 days....not weeks. It helped move the CS case faster.

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My H had the paternity test done before I even found out about A or OC. He is a lawyer and there is no way he would NOT do it legally and have proof. OW was married at the time.......but getting divorced since her H found out about the pregnancy. I don't know if he even wanted to work it out or not. OW didn't give him the option. She divorced him right away because she was POSITIVE she was going to have MY husband!

I have to admit it does make me feel better that I her plan didn't work out. It really helped my determination to make my M work out because no way did I want her to get MY life and MY kids after getting herself pregnant on purpose trying to force my H to leave me.

She told him she was on the pill. Repeatedly. However, my H told me she talked about being "late" pretty much every month before she became pregnant. Now my opinion is that she was just "floating the boat" out to see what his reaction would be to a pregnancy. My H does believe that she did it on purpose, but it was hard for him to really accept that because he couldn't imagine why anyone would take such a gamble!!!! And with a human life!!! Stunning, but true. And I don't think she is the first.

XOW also told H she was on the pill. She said she had her period for the first 4 months of pregnancy. (Convient, she found out after it would be too late for an abortion.) H did not want this baby and told her that numerous times. I don't believe in abortions personally, but I might have made an exception in this case. XOW had many coincidences that make me believe this pregnancy was on purpose. I pushed H about the paternity test again tonight. I just keep getting told that it will happen. WHEN is what I want to know! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

We had a paternity test doen. ALthough H "knew" OC was his. I insisted on it. I refussed to pay any child support until I knew this child was my husbands. I guess I was just hoping that it wouldn't be true but oh well night mare is my reality.

This was my situation as well.

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XOW also told H she was on the pill. H did not want this baby and told her that numerous times. I don't believe in abortions personally, but I might have made an exception in this case
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Except OW told H right away when she found out and he told her then to get an abortion which he DOES NOT beileve in either but she WOULD NOT DO it. She tried to trap him, and sad part is like most OW i TRULY think she thought if i found out I would leave him or he would leave me and guess what she was wrong. But she has made teh comment that she GOT THE BEST OF HIM (she thinks that because OC is a girl and its my H first GIRL) its effed up that she thinks like that, because I saythe BEST of him is ahveing him everyday, him coming home to ME, making love to me, spending his tmie with me, LOVING ME. I thought that WAS THE BEST OF HIM. AM I WRONG?

XOW also told me while she knew the A was wrong, she felt bad about what she did, she would do it all over again to have OC.

lonely315 you are right! MY psycho stalker ow said that as well. LOL some child he doesnt even want, is the best of him- NOT

LOL my husband got the test and it came back positive and he is requesting another with blood. The OC looks nothing like him, and he has a problem with the fact that the only place he disposed of semen was no where near the lower part of the OW body. Yuck. (but not my problem- his)

We found cases where the test were done repeatedly and came back with different results. lol heck this one couple took 5 DNA tests and 2 came back positive and three came back negative CAN U believe that one? His lawyer is having a field day with that.

We had (blood) DNA done right after the birth... took 4-6 wks, I think.

Seeing the pos. results was like being punched in the stomach all over again (esp. seeing OC's middle name=my mil's). What a nightmare. But I'm glad we did DNA.

Wife30, most mothers feel that way about her child regardless. I am reminded of a mother I once met who had witnessed her teenage son's car accident, and she knew the exact moment he died, because she physically FELT his soul leave HER heart. Of COURSE xow doesn't regret her child and cannot imagine life without him/her, even if regretting the affair. Someone needs to love every child unconditionally or it'll be one screwed up person! It may make it *SEEM* like the affair was "justified", but adultery is a sin, while loving a child is not!!

Cordelia, that's downright creepy! Really emphasizes the importance of blood DNA.

J,
6y recovery

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