</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by CheerfulLittleOne:
<strong> She ran it alright, straight to my bank account. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Cheerful, you are pure evil. Making a comment like that, as if it were a joke.

Hey there's a nice lesson to teach your children... "How to have illegitimate children for fun and profit."

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">How's that? By you teaching your children that men can cheat on them and as a wife, it's your duty to take that abuse? [QUOTE]

LOOK- AN OW is the most DEMEANING title a woman can have -- WHAT IS CONFUSING-- THE OW ALLOWS THE MAN TO ***** HIS WIFE AND TREAT OW LIKE THE DIRTY SECRET SHE IS!!!! You know this and so does society. So does the MM FOR THAT FACT. BEING a WIFE WHO DECIDES SHE WILL BE A SOLIDER FOR HER MAN AND HER FAMILY will be rewarded, respected, admired. My CHILDREN will worship the ground I walk on when they find out someday that their MOTHER WAS A SOLDIER for HER MAN AND HER FAMILY -- WHEN she could have any MAN SHE WANTED.. now THAT gets respect at the end of the day.

[QUOTE] Or by your husband teaching the children that it's okay to cheat on their wives and go make babies with younger, prettier women? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">There's the generalization thing again. Most OW are NOT that-- because young and pretty girls (like me) do NOT accept some MM's crumbs and a ****that they KNOW is being used elsewhere.

And furthermore.... the xow in my case-- well,lets just say -- umm--- I dont wanna brag because I don't need to. I'm a hottie and my H swam in the gutter for emotional reasons-- obviously!

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<small>[ January 23, 2005, 10:14 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Cheery

Are you stupid or are you that delusional????

The man is MARRIED... let me say it again... THE MAN was A Very Married Man...

The wife had the right to get back into the game... YOU had NO business getting involved with him... and the wife had the right to change her mind!

You are ssoooooooooo damn thick!

And another thing..if the father chooses to change his mind about visitation..he has that right too. ( I have seen this happen too) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

satisfy lust/ lonliness....

Not all affairs are about sex and just wanting someone to be there. When both an EA and PA co-exist, it can become rather complicated. I know it did in my case.

So why is it then.. that adults...can act so selfishly for few moments of pleasure...

Again, it doesn't always come down to a few minutes of pleasures. In my case, it has a lot to do with the 14 years of history we have shared together and had come to know each other as best friends.


But throwing all that aside, I am supportive of the fact that the courts are there to help achieve balance for the sake of the children. In the beginning, neither parent has total control and can get total control unless the COURT decides it in the best interest of the child. I see too many men and women, regardless of marital status and situations, try and use the presence of the courts to manipulate each other. Even though my relationships didn't work out, I was very open in the first years to have the fathers involved. It was only after it was made evident by their actions and statements of not wanting to be involved OR not wanting to compromise (i was being giving demands) that I soon filed and was awarded more restrictive control regarding custody.

Co-parenting is hard enough with an ex without always trying to bring negative personal baggage into it in the name of "protecting the child".

IMHO

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G123

Cheery is just on one of her temper tantrums... She piss because no one wants her trashy [censored] anymore...

No doubt about it, TRASH is just that TRASH...
Can you say "all used up!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> You can't recycle that...LOL

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 02:57 PM: Message edited by: wizard ]</small>

Well, I was kind of bored, Wiz.

Just waiting for the laundry to get done since BF and Grandpa took the kids to the lake for the day.

This has certainly made the time pass though. Thanks!

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<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:48 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Cheery
I hope you warned your BF... He should get tested as soon as possible!

Why does it NOT surprise me that you have another man around your children....

My mistake, I guess some trash is worth recycling....

LOL

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<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:49 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

We've been together for three years Wiz.

Thanks for the vote of confidence though <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Lonely
What is your name over on TOW?

Sounds good Lonely.

I've seen you over at TOW although I don't post there.

I'm sure we'll meet again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:51 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Jealous Lonely?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by wizard:
<strong> Cheery


And another thing..if the father chooses to change his mind about visitation..he has that right too. ( I have seen this happen too) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">As fair as that NOT is, it is very very true. It maybe limited at first, but as the father the CHILD has the right to have his/her bio-parents be just that.

Absolutely agree with you on that Mary.

wiz

GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS!!!!!!! You are all slinging that "D" word around alot in this thread!!!!! I'm blushing........I'm blushing!!!!!

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 03:12 PM: Message edited by: needtomoveon ]</small>

Actually, Lonely, for me this is a rather informative and supportive board for the women its intended to support. My reason for being here is not to inflict pain or mock these women for staying and fighting for their marriages. If anything, they have helped me dispel the stereotypes I had come to know as "the unsuspecting wifes" and try and blame them for the reasons their husbands go outside their marriages for whatever reasons.

Many of the women on here are thoughtful and family oriented and are simply trying to handle a rather difficult process of saving and securing their families. Yes, they lash out at times and they have ever right to do so especially here.

"D" word?

Debate?
Doormat?
Divorce?
Disease?

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