Hello everybody,
I get my opinion too.
I hope these ow gets what they deserve.
cs and that is it.
Sorry they will always be last on the priority list and because of her actions, so will her oc.
Its so sad, for oc and this mans wife.
I cant beleave all this is going on and the wife dont even know it, so sad.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I wouldnt want to be this ow or any ow on judgement day. all for a married man, whom is only going to make her and her child cry.
again, sad for all involved. I hate that people do this to each other. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

toNeil--

I keep thinking every time I read this post----- OMG the poor w of this man.

The mm has made her out (to stormy) to be a cold, non caring, career driven only type of woman. however- we all know its the same old story, and this woman is a real person-- and has a 3 year old baby. Pleeeease-- she and her H are a family and I bet they act like it. the MM always make it out that way.

God help this woman.. she is in for hell.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Crazymum:
<strong> Sorry Mary, I have to agree with Pep and Kandi.

The betrayal is still going on. There should be no need for all the sneaking around. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes I agree with that too that the betrayal is still going on. I mean she is not sleeping with him. She can't force him to tell her and I think by law (could be wrong, not sure) she still has to let him see the child.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by TONeil22:
<strong> I wouldnt want to be this ow or any ow on judgement day. all for a married man, whom is only going to make her and her child cry.
again, sad for all involved. I hate that people do this to each other. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">TONeil22....not being sarcastic...ok?
But shouldn't the husbands also be afraid of judgment day? My H knows he has a higher power than me to answer to. He also made alot of people cry. Me, our kids, his family.....LOTS of people.

The blame train goes both ways. JMHO...

ent

emt,
Oh yes, judgement day is for h too, it does take two.
kinda sad, makes you wonder if stay with h, and once we pass, and go to the other side, will we be able to see our h there?
makes me wonder sometimes.
I think I may try to seperate from my h, so tired of all the embarrassment he has caused me. a ended 3 years ago, but I truly cant get past it.
Thinking of tryin it on my own. we will see.

ToNeil I'm sorry to hear that. I know that you have been having a hard time getting past it. It does seem like you're H is trying though. My MIL told me once you have to get past it whether you stay w/ H or not. And that is so true. It is hard for me every day w/o H. All the problems don't just disappear because H is gone.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by TONeil22:
<strong> Hello everybody,
I get my opinion too.
I hope these ow gets what they deserve.
cs and that is it.
Sorry they will always be last on the priority list and because of her actions, so will her oc.
Its so sad, for oc and this mans wife.
I cant beleave all this is going on and the wife dont even know it, so sad.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I wouldnt want to be this ow or any ow on judgement day. all for a married man, whom is only going to make her and her child cry.
again, sad for all involved. I hate that people do this to each other. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You believe that Jesus died on the cross for our sins and you repent and asked for forgiveness you will see your h on judgment day.

At this point, Stormy's physical relationship IS in her hands-- so she can control that part. The MM telling W really doesn't benefit Stormy, does it??

Stormy is ending physical contact for HER. It has nothing to do with guilt for the W, etc.. I dont think. Whats the point of her telling W-- it will only be for her own reasons-- Stormy needs to get to the point where she is doing all of this as part of making things right-- part of HER responsibility that she does OWN, being in this A together!!!!!

So I suppose trying to convince her to tell the W is pointless, especially because it will not help her cause-- it will hurt her most likely, financially and emotinoally, because it is going to be explosive, IMO.

Wife30 and ToNeil--- I agree with the fact that the hurt WILL GO ON even if H is not there... when my H has said "I need to leave you alone becuase I'm not good enough for you-- I cause too many problems for you, etc"... I tell him he is crazy to think that this will end in my mind, my life, my memory just because he is gone!!! what is promising about starting over, though, IS the ability to have it fade with time, guaranteed.

ToNeil--- H's A is long over also and things have been very good, in fact--- BUT I am still struggling many days (inside and to myself) with wanting to end the M. The dust has settled and all seems great, but CERTAIN days, out of the blue, I just wish I could wipe the slate clean and start ALL OVER. Other days I do not. I guess you have to weigh just how many days you feel one way vs. the other???? All marriages have days you feel you want to go at it alone again, etc... so who knows???!!!

I sure dont! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

<small>[ March 03, 2005, 03:34 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

Toneil...

I agree with Mary. My husband has repented and asked for God's forgiveness. I truly hope he's there with me for eternity.

take care,
ent