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Saw OW in Grocery Store Yesterday--Need to Vent #858540 03/29/00 05:32 PM
Joined: Mar 2000 Posts: 661 H HurtButCoping OP Member
OP HurtButCoping Member H Joined: Mar 2000 Posts: 661	I was wheeling my son past the dairy aisle when OW came striding in. She and I recognized eachother in the same instant. She stuck her nose in the air and turned on her heel down another aisle. Like I am the evil one.<P>On the up side, she's gained all the weight I've lost in the past two months. <P>On the down side, as soon as I recognized her my heart dropped to the pit of my stomach and I thought I was going to faint. I was literally shaking as I paid for our groceries.<P>This really stinks.

Re: Saw OW in Grocery Store Yesterday--Need to Vent #858541 03/29/00 06:01 PM
Joined: Mar 2000 Posts: 681 M mercy Member
mercy Member M Joined: Mar 2000 Posts: 681	It does really stink! Sorry for your attack yesterday <P>My H is in murder mode when we come across the OM. The hardest part is that he has to deal with the fact that they were friends for number of years before this all happened. I think that time will help you out. There was 2 years between the 1 and 2 affair for me and right when he wasn't affected by OM presence, all heck broke loose. <P>I wish you luck in healing<BR>Mercy

Re: Saw OW in Grocery Store Yesterday--Need to Vent #858542 03/29/00 06:29 PM
Joined: Jun 1999 Posts: 2,580 R RWD Member
RWD Member R Joined: Jun 1999 Posts: 2,580	Hurtbutcoping,<P>Yea, it really sucks running into op. I ran into om 2 times a couple weeks ago and it took me about a week to get my feet back under me. <P>I haven't seen him real closely and I swear he has a twin as I keep thinking I see him around now. I even asked my d if that was him one night. <P>I didn't think it was him as he and x are on vacation.<P>I am thinking about telling om what I think of him the next time I run into him as I have given him a lot of leeway for the last 9 months.<P>Bob

Re: Saw OW in Grocery Store Yesterday--Need to Vent #858543 03/29/00 07:56 PM
Joined: Dec 1999 Posts: 3,467 M Mitzi Member
Mitzi Member M Joined: Dec 1999 Posts: 3,467	I've seen the OW 1 time in the past 3 months. It was soooo hard. She actually gave me the evil eye! She's the one with my H!!!<P>I went directly to my MIL's and cried. I got it out of my system but it took me a few days to stop thinking about it!<P>Take care,<BR>Mitzi

Re: Saw OW in Grocery Store Yesterday--Need to Vent #858544 03/29/00 08:13 PM
Joined: Nov 1999 Posts: 17 Wayne, NJ Usa N no_dup45 Junior Member
no_dup45 Junior Member N Joined: Nov 1999 Posts: 17 Wayne, NJ Usa	Interesting...I run into the ow all and I do mean all the time. What strikes me is that I too feel like I am the bad guy when she is the one that went out of her way to manipulate the situation. I find it interesting that I am not alone. <BR>It is definitely difficult to be in social situations with her. For me it has been ten months and I still want to tell her off.

Re: Saw OW in Grocery Store Yesterday--Need to Vent #858545 03/29/00 08:18 PM
Joined: Nov 1999 Posts: 70 M MovingOn Member
MovingOn Member M Joined: Nov 1999 Posts: 70	That's horrible. I can imagine how you must have felt, especially the feeling where your legs are hardly able to keep you up! My H has been involved with the OW for a year and a half now and I have never even seen a picture of her. Not to say I am not curious, though. I am extremely curious, however, I don't know how I would react if I actually got the misfortune of meeting or running into her.

Re: Saw OW in Grocery Store Yesterday--Need to Vent #858546 03/29/00 08:38 PM
Joined: Mar 2000 Posts: 39 D Depressed H Member
Depressed H Member D Joined: Mar 2000 Posts: 39	HurtButCoping<BR>I know what your feeling. I see OM everyday. I work with him and it's very frustrating to see that he shows no remorse for what he did to me. We were best friends. He was even the best man at my wedding. It hurts me so bad all the time. We work five feet from each other and don't say a word. I think about it all the time. The things that I want to say to him. But it wouldn't make a difference. He couldn't care less about it. I have so much anger built up inside but I am learning to deal with it in time. That's what it will take alot of time. Our prayers are with you.

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