Saw H today!!! Few problems getting to gether but we did. He told me the house had been taken off the market. We talked for few minutes. He hugged me, and then told me he told me he was afraid of starting over. We didn't have time to talk because SIL niece and son was there and we were all hungry. So we all went to eat. After we eat I tool them to the mall and left them there H and I went to our empty house to talk. It was a very good talk. It took a few minutes before we started talking and he started. It seemed that he was worried about finding another job I interrupted him and said I was afraid that he would worry about that. I told him that even though I was hoping he wwould want to come back it was still a shock when he asked and I said a lot of things that I really didn't have time to think through. I told him that I didn't feel that changing jobs was all the important compared to us getting back together. I thought it was important for us to be on the same schedule because we needed to be together. He agreed to that. He also told me he was good at expressing his feelings I told him that was why I wanted us to go to marriage counseling to help us learn to do that. He agreed. <P>We talked aobout his his ups and downs in emotions. I told that I was going through that also. That when we talked I was fine but when he didn't call I could sleep and I cried and was very depressed. That was what he was going through all the fears. I also told him that other thing that was very important was that It was either all me or it wasn't me at all. He said he only wanted me. That he only loved me. I told that I thought then I changed it to I know that we can make it He said I know we can make it too. I told him then we don't need to wait that the waiting was what was making us crazy. He agreed. We talked alot about his guilt feelings. He said he had screwed so bad and screwed up so many people lives. He said he had screwed my up and the ow's I said hold it right there. She knew you were married. She went after you and you never would have done anything like this had she not done that. She knew what she was doing. She had done this before. She screwed up her own life. You screwed up your own life. I told him that he was responsible for no one but him self. She was responsible for life and I was responsible for mine. Each one was responsible for our ouwn happiness no one else. And if the only way he could be happy was for us to be together then we should do it and if he felt he could be happy with her then he should stay with her. He said he wanted to be with me. I told him then we need to get started. He is coming next weekend to get the other car. I told him that I would start packing when he wanted me to and he said start packing <P>We had a great talk. I feel more confident. I know he is worried about his leaving how to do it. I told him she would have to be very stupid not to know what was going on. That I knew he was close to leaving me this summer. He feels very guilty about that.<P> He is going to try to call me every night this week so we can make plans!!!!!!!!! I think the closer we keep contact the less downs we both will have!!!!!!<P>I know I am suppose to take it slow and I do worry. But I think he will have more up and downs if we drag this out. He will not doubt his love but his guilt will get the best of him. He also said when he is on his medication he knows he wants to be with me. When he is off of it he is confused. I told him I would send the money to keep him on it LOL. <P>I also told him how talented I was in drive a rental truck! He told me I was so funny.<P>I also told him about this place. I don't know if he will get on but I told him that alot of what he was going through was common for our situation. I told him to come here to read for support that he didn't have to respond but it will help him him understand what he is going through. I also told him that If I hadn't found this place I would be crazier then I am and that this place was the only reason that I have made it this far.<P>I didn't want to leave but I hope very soon we will be together again. <P>Thanks every one for your prayers. <P><P>------------------<BR>di<P>

{{{{{{{{{di}}}}}}}}},<P>I'm all 's!<P>Jim

<B>Di</B><P> <P>What wonderful news and I will be glad to help you pack.<P>Thanks for the update and sharing. You two are going to be fine.<P>I now have big smile on my face. I am so glad and envious that he knows he only wants you. Seems like you and lostva will have a lot to talk about.<P>Again, wonderful, fantastic, stupendous news. <P><BR>------------------<BR><B>God bless you and all of us. We are all going to make it, all of us! With God on our side we can't lose! What God has joined together let no man put asunder. <P>Samantha</B><p>[This message has been edited by A blessed Samantha (edited April 08, 2000).]

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awesome!!!!!!!!<P>Sounds like you did all the talking.... Time to Listen during those phone calls!!!<P>Lord, continue to work in this marriage, to complete restoration. IJN, Amen<P>God Bless You!!!!<BR>TNT

Actually, TNT I think he did alot of talking. Those were just my responses to what he said. I let him take the lead. He is so full of guilt over the pain he has caused. Some of what I said was reasurances that he shopuldn't feel guilty. Believe me there was a lot of our conversation I left out, about his feelings for me his fears of us making it, how crazy he feels trying to deal with this. And I left out that he wanted to talk to me for months!!!!!!! <P>Thanks Jim, Bill, Samantha, and Sweetpea. You know this icon will that is the way I look I can't wipe the silly grin off my face.<P>I saved all the boxes from my last move, have plenty of paper to start wrapping the dishes. Have looked up the cost of the rental truck. <P>I need your help not only packing LOL but for real. Are there any post that talks about the betrayer breaking it off with the OP and how they dealt with it and the feelings they had. I think it would be easier on him if he knew that what he was going through was normal.<P>I had told him about this site butI think if there was a post that I could email it and it would help him. Any suggestions. Or even articles no books, he wouldn't be able to buy or read it any way, no time to really read something long. He doesn't have time to do it with his work schedule and besides she would be hanging around.<P>I know we have a lot of hard work ahead of us but after what he said I really feel that he is ready and really wants to be with me. <P> <P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Oh, Di, another chance for me to dance today!!<P> [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif[/img]<P>Robert and I are on the way over to help you get packed and ready!!!!!<P>Great, great, GREAT news, girl!<P>Lori

CONGRATS, CONGRATS,CONGRATS!! <P><BR>I posted "Iwrote the letter", i have posted to peppermint, there are a few more i have posted concerning the OM and cutting off the ties here.<P>IF you cannot find them, let me know, I can repost what has been happening to me before and since the NO contact stuff!<P>I am very happy for you!<P> <BR>MERcy

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Hi, Twin!<P>Dropping by to share in your HAPPINESS!!!!! <P>Posts like this just really brighten my day!<P>Love you, Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>