Today, 3 years ago, I came home from work early & found my h & his mother taking his stuff & packing his truck. We took a drive & talked, & I found out he'd been having an ema for 6 mos. We decided to work on our marriage.<P>After 6 more mos of him cont. the affair & denying, he started honestly working on it. We are doing good now.<P>But it still hurts! In '97 the week went like this: Sunday was fathers day. He spent the night at "his bosses" house because it was too far to drive home. Mon. (16th) the kids & I went to the zoo & stopped by his restaurant to eat. They gave him his present ("Oh, look what someone else gave me - a Braves cup too), he was distant. Tues. he picked a fight w/ me & left for work eaarly. Didn't come home. Wed. didn't come home. Thur. the 19th was d day. <P>You'd think he'd remember. Yesterday, Fathers day, I was overly sensitive to the date, & as he was cooking b'fast he told 1 of the kids to "leave him alone". That did it. I grabbed the laundry & stormed off to town to do it. Only I didn't do it - I drove to another town & wasn't coming home until night. At least this fathers day he'd be w/ his kids.<P>When I came home (1/2 hour later - I always cave in), we talked. He doesn't understand why I was upset. Is it a guy thing about anniversaries? Or am I really carrying on too long? I think what ever I feel has to be dealt w/, not pushed away & forgotten.<P>Sometimes it is too much to give, give, give. I told him that he expects recognition for his work around the farm, but doesn't give me any for my work on my book (I think it's because I haven't made any $ yet writing). He agreed. We both said we'd work on it.<P>I didn't want to give this day any specail attention. I planned on ignoring it. But here I am, on the verge of tears, over a stupid date on the calendar. <P>I don't want flowers from him, I don't want a date, what I really want is to go over to the OW's house & pop her right in her lying mouth.<P>Wow, what a vent. So unlike the nice sweet Kallie. Sometimes there is a wild person in me who never got to go out & do all the wild things I think I should have. <P>I need a vacation. Thanks for listening.