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Confused!??
#887848 09/27/00 11:49 AM
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Is it wrong of me to not want my wedding ring, as I feel the vows were broken....and it is meaningless???
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#887849 09/28/00 12:04 AM
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H4L,<BR>You're feelings are normal.<P>When our trouble started, both of our wedding rings were broken. After his disclosure in Feb 99 we fixed the rings & put them on. He wore his for a little while, but his ring was tight and he took it off...he also resumed his affair. I wore mine pretty regularly until Jan 00 and he moved out again. The sight of my rings made me ill.<P>However, after our reconciliation this summer and when we went on a trip to Mexico, we resaid our vows and my H had brought the rings along and we put them back on. For me, the pain associated with them is gone (although I would have liked new *sparklies*). His ring is still too tight and back off...hmmm, time for a gentle suggestion that he resize it?
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#887850 09/27/00 06:26 PM
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At the opposite end:<P>With the current termoil with my marriage, I do not like to wear my ring, but I feel completely naked without it. My W has not even asked for a divorce yet, but she does not wear her ring... for months now....<BR>If things do not work out on my end (us really), I'm not even sure that I'll be able to part with mine..(my first and I am still hoping my last)
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#887851 09/28/00 07:35 AM
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QUOTE]Originally posted by haunting_past:<BR><B>At the opposite end:<P>If things do not work out on my end (us really), I'm not even sure that I'll be able to part with mine..(my first and I am still hoping my last)</B>[/QUOTE]<P>I feel like things are going to work out for us (with the Lords help), but I still feel like he broke the vow that was passed on with that ring and to me it is meaningless and will not wear it..If our marriage means that much to him (as he says) then he will get me another one and not break the vow passed on when he puts it on my finger - I am asking too much!!!!????<P><P>------------------<BR>"So much to lose, yet so much pain"....Hurt4life in VA.

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