H has been sooooo sweet and conciliatory lately, i thought he must really have ended it with OW during my 3 months away. well, i tried to avoid it, but today was my first day "home", and i snooped, and well....no, they are still going strong. I instant messaged her that he is all over me to stay married to him, and did she know anything about it, as there are tons of wedding magazines and him giving money to her kids and putting her picture out in the living room for me to see when i came home.<BR>she called the sheriff to report that i was trespassing. the deputy was not impressed with this time-waster, and felt bad for me, having no other place of residence, and all mine and my children's belongings here. <BR>a peek in the trash revealed OW isn't even smart enough to use the shredder when tossing out old credit receipts...which she did as recently as 2 weeks ago. <BR>everyone told me not to trust my H (once, he told me he had filed for divorce, and today i found he had, without my knowledge...it never went further than the initial filing, but here it is on his computer...).<BR>I had really wanted to give you doubters out there some good news that these things can have happy endings, because lord knows this has been the worst of nightmares for 3 years now. sigh.<BR>well, oddly enough, i am happy. H at least rented me an apartment back near all my friends, so i can move in tomorrow (my heart of hearts knew that he had not given her up, but i soooo wanted to believe him), he helped me get a resume together, so i can look for a job, and i have daycare arrangements in mind for my babies (one and three..the reason i stayed as long as i could with their sociopathic father).<BR>good luck to all of you who have the fortitude to keep trying...i wish i did.
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