Hi,<P>Now that a more formal separation arrangement is in place friends are beginning to tell me about "someone they want me to meet". <P>Quite honestly, after the way I've been treated over the last several years it sounds tempting. A part of me would be petrified to encourage this as my self esteem is so shot I would be a nervous wreck.<BR>Another part of me is truly wondering what it would be like to begin seeing people that might value spending time with me.<P>I can honestly say that it is not a reaction based on retaliation. I feel like I have given everything I have and received nothing but lies and disrespect in return from my husband. He has been out of the house for almost 18 months and he is just so "in love" with ow (even though she has ended relationship)that I don't know if he will ever get over it. <P>A part of me wants to be honest with him and tell him that I am receiving these offers of introductions. Not to hurt him but to let him know that something in side me is changing and I am actually considering it.<P>Would you say anything?<BR>

Hoping,<BR>When I was in the same situation, I did tell my H that I was receiving offers. At one point he told me to go for it. A few months later, when he left me yet another time, I did. And my H did not like it. <P>The caution I would add is that you might feel better about your self and any action in dating if you were divorced first. <P>In having reconciled with my H after having gotten into another relationship, I have a lot of conflict over my behavior, even though I had served divorce papers and felt at the time that my marriage was over. Now it feels/sounds even to me that that was a kind of WS justification.<P>I just don't want you to be hurt again or more, but I can also say that if you choose to go out, all your MB knowledge will keep you a little smarter than if you didn't know what you do. <P>Take care, Hoping. <P>

Thanks Lor,<P>I remember when you started seeing that person.<P>You are probably right, I don't think I would feel right "dating" until I was actually divorced. But it sure feels good and makes the future not seem so bleak knowing that there really are opportunities out there. <P>I remember that guard was not very happy about op. Does he still bring that up?<P>Thanks for the reply.<P>Hoping