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Rodger,<P>I have read your story when you first posted and I refrain from replying to you because I am not sure of how much you really wanted to know and whether you are familiar with China as a whole. <P>Like Orchid, I am oriental and I have lived in North America for the past 25 years. I speak the language and am familiar with customs and culture. My H's xOW is a recent immigrant from China, so I have some first hand experience with the people. <P>You didn't specify about what was untrue in your original version of the story so I can't say if it is important or not. I think that over the long-run you will not be able to move on in your marriage unless you know the truth.<P>If you want to get some idea of what people are actually like coming from China, please let me know or if you want to discuss it privately, I can post my email address.<P>Please take what you need and ignore the rest if it doesn't fit.<P>EE

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Dear EE:<P>I would like to contact you privately to talk about China.<P><BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by EE:<BR><B>Rodger,<P>I have read your story when you first posted and I refrain from replying to you because I am not sure of how much you really wanted to know and whether you are familiar with China as a whole. <P>Like Orchid, I am oriental and I have lived in North America for the past 25 years. I speak the language and am familiar with customs and culture. My H's xOW is a recent immigrant from China, so I have some first hand experience with the people. <P>You didn't specify about what was untrue in your original version of the story so I can't say if it is important or not. I think that over the long-run you will not be able to move on in your marriage unless you know the truth.<P>If you want to get some idea of what people are actually like coming from China, please let me know or if you want to discuss it privately, I can post my email address.<P>Please take what you need and ignore the rest if it doesn't fit.<P>EE</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><P>------------------<BR>

Rodger,<P>I am sorry to ask you this but in this case it does make a difference. How well do you know your wife before you married? And are you of oriental decent? And which city was your wife lived in in China? I asked because the way of life there is very very different than what you can imagine. If you rather not discuss it, please forgive me for asking.<P>EE

Sorry about that Rodger, I did not see your last post before my reply.<P>Here's my email addy - bblanlan@hotmail.com