Just thought I'd let everyone know that I sent the letter. I sent the revised one that Patient Love suggested to me.<P>Thanks to everyone who replied. My friend hasn't responded yet but will let everyone know if and when she does<BR>

Hopeful,<P>I'm glad I could help.<P>I hope you get the results you want.<P>Just remeber you did your part and reached out to her<P>The rest is up to her<P>She is still in "the fog" and it may take her awhile to respond<P>be strong.<P>you are a good friend<P><P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

Hopeful isn't home from work yet, but I thought I would show you the reply she received to the letter.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>hopeful1771-<P>I just wanted to let you know I am not ignoring your offer of friendship, I am just trying to take a step back right now and figure myself out. I appreciate that you will be there for me when I am ready, I will and do need that friendship. Thank you!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Well, I for one wish that I could believe this. . .<P>I work with this friend, and I can see when she is with her OM. . . .Just yesterday in fact.<P>It looks to me like the only "stepping back" she is doing is away from her family and friends.<P>When I saw her come into work this morning, she looked so . . . I guess tired is the best word. She wasn't smiling, she looked like she needed some sleep. This is such a complete reversal from who she was prior to her A. She always had a smile on her face. . .<P>Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know the response hopeful got.<P>God Bless<BR>

Thanks for sharing ES! <P>Actually, remembering back to my affair... the tired look came toward the end... it was the <get ready to barf> glowing "alive" look during the "Best" <spit, spew> of the affair.<P>There's some hope, I think...

I'm not sure if I should respond to this response from our friend. I don't want to come across as being to pushy, but then again all I really want to do is go up to her and slap her for having the affair. I just wish she would see what she is doing to herself, her kids, her husband, and her friends.<P>ES, was I this bad?