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<p>[ January 09, 2002: Message edited by: OffOnOnOff ]</p>
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Hi guy, wish I knew the magic words.<P>I could tell you to look for the positives, but I know you know that. You're too smart to move out because of the harm to your kids, but a dysfunctional marriage can be harmful also.<P>I hope that your W continues to heal to the point that she recognizes that there's nothing to lose to work on your relationship. It's not fair to any of you - including her.<P>WAT
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<p>[ January 09, 2002: Message edited by: OffOnOnOff ]</p>
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OnOff<P>I hate to say it. But, We have the rest of our lives to be married. I believe to be fog. My husband said the same thing to me. I told okay we have the rest of our lives to be married so give a divorce now. We can remarry later. Maybe, It is just me but right now we are married. So If he wanted to be married later I need to be single now so I can do my own thing.
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OOOO,<P>Just think about all the good times you are having with your kids. It is worth it. Will it harm them, I don't know, but you know it will harm them if you moved out.<P>My months in singapore were did what Plan B is suppose to do, when H quit his job & moved in with OW, I filed for divorce. Everyone mentions how happy I seem to be. don't get me wrong, I still cry but I am finally at peace. I am very worried about the money now & in the future but i am at peace. H can't hurt me any longer.<P>i hope & pray you find peace.<P>sing
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"As for my wife, she thinks that everything is fine and why is a hurry of getting back together as a husband and a wife and beside she is still in the process of healing from her A. She said we won’t die tomorrow and we still have a long live together and a few more years to wait should not make any different (for heaven sake, we are 40+ and it has been more than 16 months since d-day)."<P>You are settling for a nothing marriage. Sometimes it takes a crisis like a divorce to make someone like your wife realize that she needs to change her attitude and behaviour if she wants to remain married. If divorce does not cause your wife to want to rebuild the marriage than the chances are that nothing would have changed if you stayed with her.<BR><p>[This message has been edited by max (edited June 29, 2001).]
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