<BR>I feel so confused, lost, empty and hurt. I know most of you do not like what I have said so far on this board but I don’t know what else to do. My relationship with W is just not improving, I just don’t want to be with her in any H & W capacity. I find it very uncomfortable almost forced to show any sort of intimacy and affection to her. I think I might still have deep feelings for xGF. I still care about her and though not as frequent as before I wonder how she is, if she is going out with other men, if she is happy. I wish for her happiness but it breaks my heart to think that I can’t be the one to share it. <P>What’s worst is, and I think I have mentioned this before is that W wants me ask for a job transfer back to where xGF lives. She is determined that a new country, new place, new her, new experience together will help us build a fresh start. I have tried to explain to her that for our M to even have a chance to work, we’d be better off here, where there is a lot of support on her side and my side, family, culture, living and everything. Adapting a whole family to a new place will only add unnecessary pressure. <P>In the 2 years I was there my life was different, my friends, the places I go to. If I return I won’t be able to go back to that sort of life and I am going to resent it and want it. I lived alone for 2 years, I was happy and I was free. Not to mention, it will make me feel worst that ever as that I had so many memories there with xGF. With the way I am feeling now and knowing that she’s only 15 minutes away would kill me. What if I bump into her? Honestly I am not sure what I really want. And perhaps deep down I do want to return there. <P>She thinks the risk is worth taking, we will either make it or break it. I think it will only be a catalyst to an end result which you and I know what is. I think its crazy to do this but W is so very adamant. She even wants to sell all our properties here and move there. No way, its her way of tying herself to me. But if this is what she wants, we’ll go for it. I think I am crazy for doing this, I think I am crazy to be in this marriage and once again the ones that’ll suffer the most will be my children. Do you think its right to do this? Do you think she has a valid point? <P>Thank you<P>