Please see this article on an adultery law (alienation of affection) that is on the abc Good Morning America web site. (I provided a link below). You can also submit your comments to abc. I encourage everyone to do so. I am considering this but holding off per S. Harley. I'm still in Plan A and Steve feels this would push my wife away at this point.<BR> <BR> July 13, 2001 Good Morning AmericaWorld News Tonight20/20DowntownPrimeTimeNightlineWNNThis Week <BR> <BR> <BR>Tom Oddo and his ex-wife Debby pictured here in happier times. (ABCNEWS.com) Love Triangle<BR>Man Awarded $1.4 Million From Ex-Wife's Lover<P>C H A R L O T T E, N. C., July 13 — It was certainly an affair to remember: two high school sweethearts reunited at a price tag of $1.4 million. <BR> <BR>That was the total in the largest jury award ever for a lawsuit based on "alienation of affection," a cause of action in state law that allows a jilted spouse to sue when his or her partner leaves to be with someone else. <BR>College wrestling coach Tom Oddo filed suit against the Florida doctor who had an affair with his wife. In May, a Charlotte jury awarded Oddo $1.4 million for the loss of his spouse.<P>Debby Tyson Oddo and Jeff Presser were high school sweethearts who reunited 15 years later after a flurry of romantic e-mails. They have since divorced their spouses and gotten married. <P>The award coincides with a debate in North Carolina's General Assembly, which is considering whether to ban such lawsuits by revoking the law that allows them. Nine states have "alienation of affection" laws on the books: Alaska, Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, Missouri, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Carolina and Utah. <P>Should Laws Stand?<P>Supporters of adultery and alienation of affection laws argue that the laws help uphold marriage and good morals. But critics contend the laws are archaic vehicles used to carry frivolous lawsuits born of both greed and revenge. And they say the laws stem from antiquated beliefs that women should be treated as property. <P>Presser, a Florida family doctor, had a young son with the wife he divorced for Debby Oddo. The Oddos have three children together, ages 10, 7 and 3. <P>Stan Brown, who is Oddo's attorney, argued that if not for Presser's persistence, Debby Oddo would have ended the affair and salvaged her marriage, preserving her family. Brown, a former Charlotte trial judge who has tried scores of similar cases, said the law helps protect families. <P>But Tom Bush, Presser's attorney, argued that the lawsuits hurt families by amplifying the conflict and pain that already accompany divorce. He said that the marriage was doomed anyway.<P>Presser has not paid the judgment yet, pending appeals, which could last months or years. <P>Reunited, and the Love Triangle<P>Debby Oddo had started dating Jeff Presser in eighth grade, in her hometown of Jacksonville, Fla. They dated throughout high school, than went to different out-of-state colleges, breaking up in 1984 when they were both college sophomores. <P>Presser became a doctor and married in 1990, settling in West Palm Beach, Fla., where he and his wife had a son. According to court records, the former sweethearts kept in touch sporadically until 1995. <P>The Oddos' marriage seemed happy, but around the time of their 10th anniversary, Debby Oddo told the jury that she was beginning to re-evaluate the state of their union. <P>She claimed her husband treated her like a child, controlled her time and their money, and never told her he loved her. The Oddos started sleeping in separate beds. There was little affection to alienate by the time she reconnected with Presser, Debby Oddo said. <P>That reconnection came in February 1999, when out of the blue, Debby Oddo called Presser. She phoned him again a few days later, and they talked about how they felt trapped in loveless marriages, and confessed they had feelings for each other. <P>Love Notes and a Rendezvous <P>As the communications continued, Presser set up new e-mail accounts so they could exchange love notes. 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F.Y.I.<BR>Many states have abolished alienation of affection laws, finding them to be antiquated, and out of step with modern society. Better check to see if your state has abolished its alienation of affection law before you get all hepped up over a lawsuit.

RC:<P>Not to get "hepped" ... the article specifically asserts which states have alienation of affection laws still on the books:<P>'Nine states have "alienation of affection" laws on the books: Alaska, Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, Missouri, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Carolina and Utah.'<P>On my Rand McNally map, that's three green states, two purple ones, and four yellow ones.<P>The purple laws differ from the yellow ones and they, in turn, differ from the green ones. An attorney within any of those colored jurisdictions, of course, can supply the details of law in any particular area.<BR>STL

<BR><B><BR>'Nine states have "alienation of affection" laws on the books: Alaska, Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, Missouri, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Carolina and Utah.'<P></B><P>The funny thing is: the principles in this lawsuit are all from FL (my home state) - a state which does NOT support this "alienation of affection" law. I believe it MIGHT have, though when my parents divorced, since I seem to remember something about something like this (I was a kid!) then. Or was it "Grounds of Adultery"?? Ah, well, all one in the same.<P>Too bad FL does not support this law, as my OW apparently is rich enough to be "supporting" my H now, and I could get used to it, too! <P>Lupo<BR>

Hey, what's one more law that supports "frivolous lawsuites born of greed and revenge"? Isn't that what most of them do??? <p>[This message has been edited by cleopatra (edited July 14, 2001).]

cleo:<P>You hit it on the head: if we got rid of all the laws that permitted frivolous lawsuits based on greed and revenge, there would be a glut of starving lawyers. Hmmmm .... now frivolous law suites, on the other hand, are built by lawyers bent on greed and revenge.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

Well heck .. at least they used the appropriate term ...<P>"ALIEN ation"<P>Sorry, couldn't help myself. It was just out there and I grabbed it. lol<P>Jo