I am wondering if any of you know of a site such as MB geared for victims of spousal abuse?? REsponses will be greatly appreciated. I gave her this site, but i am not sure this is where she needs to be?<BR>Maine<P>------------------<BR>IN the words of BOB the BUILDER!!" WE can fix it, yes we can!!!"

Maine,<P>Wow, good question. I sure hope there is. We see people here all the time who needs this type of support.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

thanks Zorweb, I am talking to her in PM as i type this. I hope that someone has this information.<BR>Maine<P>------------------<BR>IN the words of BOB the BUILDER!!" WE can fix it, yes we can!!!"

Those of us who have been abused (or many of us anyway) discussed this here --> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/004776.html" TARGET=_blank>Abuse Thread</A><P>Although abuse is discussed by the Harley's, it is not dealt with deeply. However, lead your friend to this thread, as a starting point, to know she's not alone.<P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>And we know. We who have seen. ~Pellegrino

Is she in danger?<P>If so, she needs to GET OUT and BE SAFE first, and work on the marriage second.<P>But I would guess you know that already...

no she is not in danger he is out of the house, She wants to save her marriage Her name in here is nchope, i asked her to reply to this thread. She signed up today. i was not sure if this is where she should go, i thought this was for dealing with Affairs, but if she can get helphere then great. I am not sure what book to recommend to her either, it is a sublect i have no experience with.<BR>Maine

I am nchope who marinemade spoke of. Yes, I have checked out thread and am looking for help in trying to work through the fear and help save our marriage. My spouse is in abuse counseling. Any suggestions on books, forums anything would be greatly appreciated.

NICE to see ya NCHOPE, I hope they can help you<BR>Maine<P>------------------<BR>IN the words of BOB the BUILDER!!" WE can fix it, yes we can!!!"

nchope,<P>I'm going to give you the "welcome letter" to read... it has lots of great links... <P>Your H is in counseling, and that's A POSITIVE STEP!!<P>If you can afford it, I would suggest counseling with the Harley's for YOU (and him, but you first). There's a link to their page in the letter...<P>Here you go - <P><BR>Hello and Welcome to Marriage Builders!<P>First, I would like to share two links with you. Just click on the underlined links here, and read –><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi10_tour.html" TARGET=_blank>Tour of Marriage Builders</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome</A>. <P>Please read everything you can on this site, post and read often!! <P>I have been betrayed and betrayer, so I have the dubious honor of knowing what infidelity does from BOTH SIDES of the situation. <P>I believe in the concepts espoused here, if applied properly. One idea that has worked *wonders* for some couples is Plan A. Read about it here –><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>What Are Plan A and Plan B</A>.<P>Use what you learn here to make your marriage a safe place where you do your best to meet the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A> of your spouse,and avoid <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A> whenever possible. . When a decision must be made, use the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>POJA</A> to determine the final outcome that you can both agree upon.<P>Many couples find that counseling is VERY helpful, and the counseling provided here is excellent for several reasons; but the most important is that it goes along with the concepts here. Check it out here –> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counsel Link</A><P>Again, welcome to our community, and feel free to write often and ask lots of questions!<BR><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>And we know. We who have seen. ~Pellegrino

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by nchope:<BR><B>I am nchope who marinemade spoke of. Yes, I have checked out thread and am looking for help in trying to work through the fear and help save our marriage. My spouse is in abuse counseling. Any suggestions on books, forums anything would be greatly appreciated.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>There are all types of help out there for you, just type domestic violence in your search engine. You can find boards,even people who will talk to you on the phone, several #800's. There is also numerous publications available at the site. Not all links at the web site suggest that you leave unless you are in danger. Give it a try, if you can't find anything there, let me know, a have numerous resources. I am a DV & SA counselor, funny , I guess I paid to much attention to my clients marriage's and life that I couldn't see mine falling apart. Good Luck!!!<BR>

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Hi there, and welcome nchope!<BR>I sometimes post on infidelity.com...and there is a board there for abused spouses.<BR>I've never visited that forum, so I have no idea how helpful it would be, but it may be worth a try.<BR>All the best to you.<BR>SD

I see that two people have listed potential sites for this situation. I would have thought there would be so many of them, considering that this problem is rampant.<P>Last summer, an internet friend of mine (introduced to me by my "I thought" reformed wayward spouse) was having domestic abuse problems. I tried to help her, and could not find a forum for her. So, I started one up (nobody ever visited it). But, I did it as a favor and kindness to her. She repaid by having an affair with my husband. <P>Is there a board for that???????<P>GRRRRRRR

Hello Maine, and nchope,<P> Here are a couple of links that talk about domestic violence. I have not had the time to read the sites, but thought they might help. Be sure to look for links to other web sites on the ones I am giving.<P> <A HREF="http://www.celebratelove.com/domesticviolence.htm" TARGET=_blank>http://www.celebratelove.com/domesticviolence.htm</A> <P> And,<BR> <A HREF="http://www.fhccinc.org/domviolence.htm" TARGET=_blank>http://www.fhccinc.org/domviolence.htm</A> <P> Let me know if these sites are the kind of information you are looking for.<P> Be strong for yourself and any children you may have.<P> Jerry<BR>

If you have a newsgroup reader you can also do searches on abuse within the newsgroups. Some of the forums can be quite helpful. This is what I was doing before I found MB. In fact someone in the newsgroup pointed me here. Thanks whoever you are <P>

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