I was going to submit apost under "What are the good points about your spouse?" but then stopped.<P>WH moved out 2 weeks ago. I was looking forward to the stress relief. I got it. He hasn't seen the OW in about a month and a half. I know as long as I don't LB, it is over between them. I feel right now that it wouldn't bother me if we maintained a relationship like it is now. He come over every night for dinner then leaves. He's always going out with his friends while I sit at home(taking second place). I am so fearful of his LB towards me that I just want to avoid him. He doesn't get violent, it's just anger and threats (verbally). Sometimes I think I was suppose to be the one to have the A.(though I would never)<P>I don't always look forward to him coming over, I just feel like the love is gone. A couple of months ago his mother moved away, she and I were very close. I came home from work the next day and I said to him. "I feel like I lost my best friend" He replied "Who my mom?" <BR>I said "No you..." I hadn't realized that I was substituting her as my best friend, because I had lost my real best friend my H.<P>Why do I feel this way? Things are going great. We get along fine. He treats me well. I've been meeting all of his ENs but I feel mine are suffering. <P>I have struggled and have come too far to loose all love for him. Can someone give me advice?<p>[This message has been edited by M&J (edited August 24, 2001).]

Awww M&J.<BR>I feel for you, and I understand the best friend idea.<BR>My posting desire is gone. Let me know if you want to talk some other way.<BR>

bumpers..............................