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What do WS's say when the marriage doesn't work out vs. what do they say when it does #944497 09/05/01 01:24 PM
Joined: Jul 2001 Posts: 202 Chlt, NC G gdc OP Member
OP gdc Member G Joined: Jul 2001 Posts: 202 Chlt, NC	I'm interested in what are some of the normal responses that BS's get from WS's. I would like to hear from either WS's or BS's whose marriage have or haven't worked out.<P>I ask my wife if there is any hope to save the marriage and she says "doubtful". Is this a no or a yes? She also leaves the door open by saying things like, "I don't know if counseling will help right now" or "If I came back things would not be all hunky doory" <P>Should I take these statements as positive or negative?

Re: What do WS's say when the marriage doesn't work out vs. what do they say when it does #944498 09/05/01 01:27 PM
Joined: Jun 2001 Posts: 74 owasso,ok,tulsa A Austin Member
Austin Member A Joined: Jun 2001 Posts: 74 owasso,ok,tulsa	Take them for what they are: words. I got the same type of answers. You have to look at her actions as opposed to her words. he actions she takes will tell you what the words really mean.

Re: What do WS's say when the marriage doesn't work out vs. what do they say when it does #944499 09/05/01 01:30 PM
Joined: Jun 2001 Posts: 87 Dallas, TX B bound for better days Member
bound for better days Member B Joined: Jun 2001 Posts: 87 Dallas, TX	Yeah, they are just words. In the beginning most WS's say a lot of things they don't mean........that's because they don't know what they mean. My WS said "you'll never be able to fogive me". That was just his way of placing blame on me. If we split up, he wanted to believe it was because I couldn't forgive him, not because it was his A.<P>We made it through this horrific experience. Although I must say my H's A was only EA. Doesn't make it hurt any less, though. <P>I wouldn't put a lot of stock into anything your WS says right now. The story will keep changing for a while to come........<P>Good luck,<BR>B<BR>

Re: What do WS's say when the marriage doesn't work out vs. what do they say when it does #944500 09/05/01 02:03 PM
Joined: Jun 2001 Posts: 1,196 H HeroOfFamiliesandSons Member
HeroOfFamiliesandSons Member H Joined: Jun 2001 Posts: 1,196	gdc,<P>I get the "I don't know" response most frequently if I ask about my W if she thinks we can reconcile or if she knows what happened. She says she is scared and confused and wishes she had an answer for what she was looking for and for the questions that I have.<P>However, as the others have said, actions speak louder than words sometimes (although the words can really hurt). My W is still counseling with me and she told me last night that she does care for me and that she wants to have a happy marriage She still can't honestly say that she loves me yet but she tells me that she is trying to satisfy my most important needs to the best of her ability right now. That does not include SF, Affection, or Rec. Comp. <P>Let's see that's 3 and 2 I guess this is a good day.<BR>SG

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