This is about one of my SILs. I have three. I'll try to give you guys the abridged version, k?<p>SIL marries a man from So. California, she is from PAC NW. She is in awe of him and his intelligence, kindness, success and wealth. And he worships the ground she walks on, cherishes everything about her. He truly did.<p>They are married for approx. 4 years and she has an EA and eventually a PA with a co-worker (MM). This goes on for about a year before D-day. H takes it very hard but they stay together. My SIL then turns up pregnant, her H wants a DNA test and even if it's his he wants a D, but will stay with her thru the pregnancy and then a couple mos after. SIL refuses to stop seeing MM. Baby is born and 6 mos later a DNA. The baby is her H's.<p>H leaves and files for D. H was very hurt and angry. SIL pursues the relationship with the MM and eventually MM leaves his W for her. MM is even more successful and wealthy than SIL H's. She is elated.<p>They live together and MM files for D. Both D's are granted. The happy couple are now in their first year of living together and things start to fall apart, the no-longer-MM starts to mess around with other co-workers but at the same buying SIL expensive gifts (jewelry, trips to Europe, etc.). He proposes and they become engaged. SIL finds out about his messin around and breaks it off and leaves him. Now completely alone, She's devistated. She really was a mess, I remember.<p>She is now alone with her son. For 9 more years SIL does not get seriously involved with anyone because everyone is a schmuck (to quote her). <p>SIL and her XH have become not only civil but friends by now. He never remarried, was holding a torch for SIL. Because they have their son together, they start to do things together. Pretty soon they move in together. After a year, they re-marry. They were separated
10 years.<p>Two wonderful years after their very beautiful and emotional wedding, SIL's H goes to the doctor for an annual physical, things aren't right and he is diagnosed with Prostate Cancer. One very hard, short, emotionally draining year later, he dies (47 years old).<p>When I look back at these events (my H and I were there for all of it) and think of all the things I know now. I wonder if my SIL's H would have known the Harley's principlas and Plan A'd my SIL, that she would have come back to their marriage. Because just like the Harley's have told us, her A met it's natural death within the Harley's timeline, less than 2 years. <p>My SIL is still mourning her H's death (5+ years later). She never stopped loving him and hasn't found anyone that could take his place. Too sad.<p>Jo<p>
BTW: I do recognize that infidelity seems to run in my XH's family. Really makes me wonder.<p>[ November 14, 2001: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>
