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I have the opportunity to move closer to my husband in hopes of him spending more time with the kids and a possible reconciliation between us. Right now we live 4 hours apart.<p>I have a job offer that would bring me closer to where my husband lives, but I would have to commute 2 hours a day! I am unsure if this would be feasible with 2 small children? Is there anyone out there who commutes this far? Is that something I should consider since I would really have no one to depend on to help with the children? I have no friends or family there, and would really only be depending on my husband, who is not too giving of his time at this point.<p>What to do???
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SEBREA, I'm sorry no one's answered your post. Personally, I could not handle a 2-hour commute. Are you sure this job is what God wants? Ask him to shut the door if it's not the right one. If you have small children, have you considered what would happen if daycare isn't available close to work? You'd have a long haul to get to them. Please continue to pray about it. Also, maybe you need more time away from your H for him to see if the M is what he wants?? My prayers go out to you.<p>MOM
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I commute an hour each morning and an hour each evening -- which I think is fairly common.<p>My children are not little -- so I am more open to that -- and I have a lot of support with family for the times that conflict.<p>How flexible is the job with hours and needed time off?
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How close is OW to you now, and to your husband? Does that contribute to a decision? If shes close to him would you be able to handle it? I cant.<p>Are you both on speaking terms enough to talk about a parenting plan that will support you. After all, it is in his best interests too to have greater contact with the kids.<p>Dancer
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I don't know, Sebrea. When I commuted two hours each day for 3 months it just about killed me. And I don't even have kids at home. I had to get up at 5:30 and rush out the door at 6:30 and didn't home until 7-8 every night. I had no home life anymore. If I had to do something close to home, I had to take at LEAST half the day off to get a simple errand done. <p>What will you do if one of your kids gets sick and you need to get to the school quickly? Just think how exhausted you will be after working 8 hours and then spending 2 hours on the road. You will then have to face your second job, taking care of the kids when you are exhausted.
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