Oh God, you guys are so funny, I'm actually sitting here chuckling thinking about some of the comments about our crazy OW. It's nice that we can laugh sometimes, but it's really not funny, is it. I get so bitter sometimes that my husband put me in this situation. Anyway, I'm definitely going to ignore any attempts OW makes to contact me. Hopefully she won't, but I will make a record of it if she does. I forgot to tell you guys that in September after my uncle died we were trying to sell my husband's car cause my uncle left his car to us. My husband's car was an 82 Bonneville that was my dad's, who passed away five years ago, but the car was in great shape. My husband asked some of the secretaries in his office if they were interested in it for their kids, and OW pipes up that her husband needs a car. Can you believe it? Now my husband doesn't know what to say cause he can't very well tell her he won't sell it to her in front of everyone. Her husband calls my husband and makes an appointment to see the car, and she comes with him!! This was pre DDay, remember. My husband said he was very nervous that she was at our home (she stayed outside while her husband checked the car), but he said he was also glad that she came because she could see we had a great home with a pool, fence, nice yard, and maybe would realize that he had a life that did not include her. I think it had the opposite effect, because as I stood watching out the window she was standing with her arms crossed and tapping her foot like she was really pissed off. I commented on it to my husband. Also, I remember thinking, she's not so hot, not my husband's type, nothing to worry about there. Famous last words! We only wanted a couple hundred bucks, but me trying to be nice says, "Oh just give it to them, at least we don't have to pay the insurance on it". After I found out about the affair I was like a maniac about them having the car. Can you imagine, that b---- had my wonderful father's car. It makes me sick to think about it. I was furious with my husband. I thought he should have told her we decided to give it to a friend, but he thought she would see what a nice person I was and wouldn't want to hurt me by telling me. Men are so naive sometimes. I wonder if her husband trashed the car after he found out. I can't imagine he would want it after knowing what occured in that car, as that's the one my husband drove to and from work in. OW told me she told her husband everything that occured between her and my husband, but I seriously doubt it. The night her husband found out and he called here, OW called a few minutes later to ask if I was still there, and did I know. Then she tells my husband her husband gave her a black eye. I guess she thought my husband would feel sorry for her. That was on a Friday night. On Monday she shows up at work acting like nothing was wrong, telling everyone how her husband is picking her up for lunch, and what a wonderful weekend they had, and then she gets flowers at work from her husband. Crazy, huh? I think my husband knew then for sure that she was nuts. A couple days later when she confronted my husband and told him they need to talk and he said "no, I have nothing to say to you, I love my wife and I'm trying to work things out with her and I suggest you do the same with your husband", she calls me at home and asks me if my husband is looking for a new job. I tell her I hope so, and she says "well I can't stay here if he is working here". I tell her what she does is entirely up to her, and then she tells me my husband better watch out because if he tells her one more time that it's her fault I found out she is going to get her husband to beat him up. I tell her she's just pissed because she can't accept that it's over. She tells me my husband is only with me for my money, and our home, and that he must be in love with his mother, then she hangs up on me. I'm sure she made that last comment because I'm quite a bit older than my husband, but it didn't bother me a bit because I look great for my age, and no one believes how old I am, and in reality, I'm much better looking than her. She's older than my husband too, so I thought it was funny that she made that comment. Also, I guess I should check my bank account again, cause geez, I didn't know I was that well off! Anyway, my husband said he never told her it was her fault I knew except for the night I found out, when she called and asked if I knew, and he said, "yea, thanks to you". He said that was the last thing he said to her until she approached him again the following week asking to talk.<p>I just want to say thanks again to all of you who replied and just for listening to me ramble. The only other person who knows about any of this other than the involved parties is my best friend, and I really don't talk to her much about it as she and her husband are good friends of my and my husband, and I don't think she understands the full scope of what I'm going through. I haven't been here much lately either, because sometimes it depresses me reading about eveyrone's heartache. So thank you everyone.
