He gave me a beautiful bracelet. He gave me a wonderful card in which he handwrote some sincere words, and also had a post it stuck to it that said "look on my wrist." There was the bracelet. He was never been very good at the romantic thing, but he is really getting good at it now!<p>But I did blow it somewhat. Copy of post on recovery board:<p>My WH and I had a good Valentines day, but I did have a little setback. WH told me that he got $80 out with the ATM and that he had to make a pitstop (the night before V-day). He came home and that's when I got the beautiful earrings. I knew they cost more than $80 though, so I was thrown for a loop....that and he pays credit for everything. So I snooped and found the receipt while he was sleeping in the morning. Saw that cash wasn't involved. He knew something was up later that day because I was acting strange, and I asked him what he did with the cash since the earrings were way too nice to cost $80 (I didn't mention the receipt). He said he used the cash as a down payment. SO then when he saw I was still upset, I told him I saw the receipt. He then looked really sad and said "I don't even want to know what you think I did with that money." and then he told me what his plan was...to squirrel away money so that he could rent a convertible and take me to a bed and breakfast. He wasn't defensive at all, just upset that I was upset. I was of course upset for ruining the surprise and kept telling him how I HATE being so paranoid. He says that he is trying to romance me more since that is one of my big ENs, and he is new to this. Says it's fun to plan and be sneaky to surprise me. (I know what he means, because I love doing stuff like that for him!!!) But I'm still scared to let this go. I guess because I'm scared of losing control of the situation. He comes home right after work and we talk on his way to and from work, and during the day. The coworker OW transferred to a different store, so they don't see eachother. WH is nothing but attentive, changing for the better, tells me over and over how me and S are what he wants for the rest of his life, and he is definitely sincere. Our time together is so much better than it used to be...so why can't I let this go? He says over and over that thier relationship was a friendship and that he doesn't know why it turned into a PA. I do know that at the time there was NO friendship in OUR marriage, and I think the conversation aspect was a big EN for him. Now I'm just rambling. Wish I didn't feel the psycho need to snoop and be on guard all of the time.
