I was just remembering, way back, to the day that I found this website. I'm sure many of you remember how you were, on an emotional level that day. We then made the decision to register and it asked for a Log-In name. Many of us probably tried names that were already being used, etc. Sometimes we put deep meaning into our names, because we wanted it to say so much.
I've shared my reasoning for my Log-In name and I'll share it again. I was just wondering what your reasoning was for your name.<p>I took many classes in college (PSY101, SOC101) in which we were just getting our feet wet in a vast subject or field. When choosing my Log-In name, I felt I was starting my life from the beginning again. I'm learning all about "Kim" and needed to start with the very first class. This is where KIM101 came into play. It is a bit out there, but that goes along with my thought processes at the time. <p>Love to hear your stories! (I also posted the same thread in Recovery)

I picked my name because I felt like I was drowning. My first post was titled barely above water.<p>It sure seemed fitting at the time. I had someone ask me once why I did not change my name. I really don't know why.

Well...I'm a very beautiful person, after you dig thru the thorns [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I think mine is pretty obvious.
At the time of my first posting it was about two months post dday. I looked up at my University Degree and just saw the line ...in the province of Alberta, Canada...and well....hence my name. Doesn't really tell much about me, but something about where I am. I am in Calgary specifically. Hmmm, maybe I should change my name...StampedeQueen? Nope, I'm not really into western stuff..only during the Stampede...BackstageMom? I work in the theatre and am a Mom...
I'll just stick with my ol' moniker...

Hi Kim,
I chose mine simply because that's how I feel. I am hurting and I am lonely but getting better everyday [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>This is a great website!

I chose mine because if this had been a full-blown affair, I don't think I'd be here for this marriage. Pornography has been a issue (my H is only rarely involved, but his father is a free-porn freak). I have 3 children (as it states in my signature, duh) and I love this man with all my heart. I think I would die for him. But, I cannot take my children too. So, I want to stay married come-what-may. I'm just hoping my kids can take what comes, and I won't expose them to hard-core lifestyle. I'm "hoping", not because I wished on a star, but because I pray for God to deliver us from this, and want him to change the dysfunction that has been passed down through our families: both my H and I were Sabused, we have influential family members who were womanizers, etc, etc...I know God can do this. Hope is not a wish, but a belief. Okay, essay over, sorry.

I put a lot of thought into mine, also. Mine is a reminder of how I want to be, a goal.<p>Note, a strong gentle, not a wimp.

Hello!<p>i orginally signed on as Legacy just because I liked the name. We all leave a legacy, will it be a postive one or negative? <p>After a while, I changed my name to better reflect where I am in this process. I wanted a positive remider every time I logged on to the board. I believe in positive reinforcements no matter how large or small.
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Last name Ratliff + Mom of 5 = Momrat.
I'm too busy to be very creative. lol<p>
Married almost 7 years.
Together 9
5 kids
Internet porn for the last few years

Well I chose mine because it refers to the fact that my H is a compulsive cleaner and neatnik around our house and he has become increasingly so over the years as we have moved into bigger and nicer houses. I am NOT fond of cleaning. And over 16 yrs of marriage its caused alot of problems. When H first went to marriage counseling with me after his affair the counselor asked him what appealed to him about OW? He said, "Because her desk is so organized and she keeps her condo so tidy!!!" YIKESSS! That just doesn't happen at home where we have 3 kids from teen down to 4 yr old who mess the house up constantly having friends over! OW was able to keep her condo spotless because she is single and worked all day with H and no one was there to mess it up!!!! lifeismessy

S - Just in EN<p>I am always in emotional need stage it seems. Like I'm not getting full fulfillment of my needs. May change one day when I feel my EN's are being met.

Mine's short for "we have too long a history together to quit now." <p>I've only been on this board for less than 2 months so far, but I'm starting to realize things, based on input from you fine people and my own personal reconstruction after being so devastated, that the chances of actually rebuilding our marriage aren't all that great, even though my WW and I have had some very good times and made a few important steps in the last 4 days. <p>During an argument last weekend, when asked, I said I figure we've got about a 30% chance of saving our marriage. That angered her, but she should have expected something like that. After all, I've been busting my a** reading books and this site and working on myself and how I relate to her, but she only wants to "take a day at a time" and watch to see if I really improve myself.<p>Now that we've had some good talks and closeness in the past few days, I still think it's 30% and this is why: 1) I've realized I'm a decent person, in spite of my past mistakes in our M, and that I will survive whether our M does or not, and 2) OM isn't out of the picture, and WW doesn't think she should break off all contact with him because they work on the same focused subject within their scientific field, and she considers him a very good friend. I'll be patient with her, and wait for her to scrutinize this "friendship" for herself to realize what I think it really is - taking cruel advantage of her EN for conversation to cheat on his W - and I want her to meet more with our Cs, but ultimately there is no way I will tolerate OM in any aspect of my own future, and so if she insists on continued contact of any kind, I will move on. <p>Make no mistake, I love my W very much, but in the process of realizing I'm a decent person, I've jettisoned some of the pitiful clingy aspects of my "love" for her that were based on my fear of losing her. I've also realized that she's right when she tells me that "you love who you THOUGHT I was all these years". I couldn't possibly really have known her the past 11 years, because there was a big part of her life she wasn't sharing with me and our kids (the A with OM). <p>And so: As I rebuild ME while I continue to work on our relationship unilaterally while she continues to be 'friends" with OM, I see myself gradually replacing my love for her with an increased confidence in myself and my future if I have to be a single parent. At some point, if she doesn't make a couple of big steps/sacrifices on her own, I will not want to rebuild anymore.<p>Heck, I sure hope it never comes to that, and really can't tell what's going to happen because things have been changing between us so radically in just a few days. I still want to be with her more than anything else in the world right now, but at some point I feel that I'm likely to change my mind.<p>I'll keep my moniker though, just for simplicity,

I chose mine because it's what everybody used to call me when I was a little girl.<p>I'm definately NOT a Miss Priss.<p>It's also what we call our middle daughter who definately IS a Miss Priss. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img]

This is an interesting thread. My screen name is a reminder for me. I'm hoping to heal not only the marriage, but myself too. 6/14/97 is the day we got married.

My husband used to call me that sometimes. I would sign notes, wiffle or wifey.<p>Sometimes now though I feel more like a wiffle ball and he is the bat.

Well a lot of folks who knew I was having a rough time but did not know what wsa wrong, were telling me to hang in there. I am hanging in there. But there is too long a name for posting so I shortened it to hanging In. <p>I suppose I could have used an acronym but it would have been HIT and that makes me sound like a violent psycho.. and while Im still deciding if I am sane, but I am NOT violent [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

ah... login names... I have had many...<p>I started as InShockInCali (I was in shock in California...)<p>When I became stronger... I changed to StrongerIn Cali... then the invasion of OW and OWH, I became Diva (very short time period)... then... I just said... forget them and became JustPlainCali....<p>Sometimes I just didn't feel safe and posted as TryingAgain... only because Calliope and Calypso, etc... were just too 'obvious' (thanks new_beginning)...<p>Now I just mostly post as Cali... sometimes when I sign other emails and such, I use Cali by mistake...<p>It's almost like Marsha is becoming Cali... <p>Cali

I chose my name to help me remember not to dwell on the past, but to look ahead. The here-and-now, and the future is what really matters...the past is only as good as the lessons it has to teach us.

I am the technical support for a computer software product called Endevor (no a). I felt it fitting since I am constantly endeavoring to become a better person. <p>For a short time I posted as I'm So Sorry.

Romans 8:37: Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]