I am WS,I had affair with woman on internet and W found out from searching history on our computer, having been through everything that we have been through I highly recommend to anyone thinking of or participating in an extramarital affair to STOP! Our marriage is destroyed and all for a few minutes of pleasure. After she found out she asked me to leave and filed restraining order, after 2 months she moved out of the house, and I have moved back in the house, during that time she didnt want me coming to church, actually she wanted me to leave the church and the pastor after my confession, of what I done, said that as long as we keep it legal to do what God leads me to do. I decided to stay at the church, I am a musician in the choir and my wife sings alto as well. I did have the opportunity to give her a letter and she basically said that it was not real and didnt believe me. I have repented and stopped contact with OW, wife will not speak to me at all, and has said that I gave her the out that she needed because she felt that I did not love her. We did separate 2 years ago and at that time she moved in with a man that she dated before she met me, we both had not joined church at the time even though she was saved at the time. I am very sorry, embarrased, humilated and humbled by what has happened and am glad that the sin is out of my life, I want my W back but she is totally pro divorce at this time, she has quoted Matthew 5:28 as her out, I understand, but am not giving up yet, she also took everything that meant anything to me when she moved because when she filed the order I could not get in to get my personal items, she said that she is forgiven because she had a right to take them because it was a result of the consequences of my bad choices and decisions, I consider it stealing, I still love and forgive her for it because I can get more things, she said that she is glad to have her friends back and is lacking for nothing, and has peace and joy in her life, for which I am glad. She wants to file income taxes as married however wants me to jump through hoops to do it, and does not want to actually do anything put sign the forms in church, and have the money go to her bank account, I being the person that I am want to do it, however, have I not paid for my sins to her, I have admitted apologized and asked for forgiveness, she said that she would forgive me in her and Gods time not mine, and that she is going to file for divorce because she has the right, Please any body out there thinking of or doing the extramarital thing STOP! Its a dead end if you love your spouse! Since she has not filed any body out there think there is any hope for this marriage?
D-Day 1/8/2
Moved out 1/8/02
Married 2/28/98
My 2nd marriage
Her 3rd marriage
She committed adultery in 2nd marriage husband divorced her and filed restraining order against her
I have 11 year old son
She has 21 year old son and 19 year old daughter
No kids together
I am 39
She is 39 <p>Update:
We have had email communication for the last week, however she is adamant about the divorce, and told me today that she already had her next husband picked out, and that I have no right to my personal property because of the adultery, that I should leave the relationship empty handed, I will continue to tell her that God hates divorce until the divorce papers are filed and final, what can I do let her I know that I have changed if she wont let me get close to her?