WH was out of town for a week, which probably was not good for our recovery. I spent an awful lot of time obsessing about the affair, realizing just how well things ran without him, and repressing my anger to the point of feeling detached towards him. I saw what I was doing and made some overt efforts to turn my thinking around (because really, I want my marriage to last)!<p>The day before he came home, I asked if I could make dinner arrangements for Saturday (he usually does this). he was surprised and pleased at the turnaround - he has been very, very worried that I will not forgive him.<p>So, I made reservations at a nearby hotel, ordered our favorite meal as take-out and set it up in the room, put out about 50 little candles, arrayed myself in my Victoria's Secret's finest, and called him at 6:00. Told him to look in the toolchest, where he just found an envelope from the hotel along with the room number and key. It went very, very well (we went home at about 10:00, cuz we didn't have a sitter).<p>He keeps marveling at the evening and saying nothing this wonderful has ever happened to him. The good news - "going through the motions" has helped me regain some of my own passion and commitment. I feel more hopeful than I have since DDay.

KS - This sounds so awsome. Glad to see you had such a moment. Progress can seem slow at times, but you seem to have the right idea. Keep up the good work. I wish you great success. My best to you.

WOW---<p>You were definitely the windshield that time around [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Good luck <p>E [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

WOW!
This is very uplifting and encouraging and CREATIVE! I'm glad your surprise date turned out so very well. This is so cool! Good for you! Bravo! YAY! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]