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I'm curious is there something to this myth? I've noticed alot of the affairs seem to happen around the same time period. <p>Can we take a poll? When did it happen in your life?<p>Mine after 9 years of marriage.<p>sty
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Mine happened after 9 years of marriage too. And we only dated 2 months prior to marriage, so if you count the first 2 years of marriage as more of a dating period, then we experienced the 7 year itch. Maybe 7 years is a make it or break it point. I did not have an affair, but I considered divorcing him the summer prior to his A.
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hhhmmmm... I am not sure it means anything in my case.. it happened year #1 #2 #3#4 #5 #6 all the way up to 12 then i think he may have stopped a year, or maybe he got smarter. then again year 14 15 16 and I think he waited this year. when I finally did it, it was year 13 what a mess. THIS probably doesnt help. lol
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My WW had EA/PA after 7 years of M.
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Well, my W's 1st A was during the 7th year, and the current one is in the 21st year (3x7), so I guess that might mean something.<p>Then again, maybe she had another during the 14th year that I didn't find out about.... [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]
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My WH affair began just before our 5th yr. wedding anniversary. We have been together for almost 7 years.
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yep. we fit. 10 years together, 7 years married.
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Excellent question - definately a 7 year itch in my case: 7 years married, 10 years together.
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Let's see.....Been married 17 years, and affairs happened in years: 6, 11, & 16 (H says "just friends")<p>When I got married at 18 (I wasn't pregnant!), I was SOOOO naive. I never in a million years could have imagined the hell my marriage would go through because of adultery. We're in great recovery, and I love him, but I can't say I'd marry him again given the chance to do it all over. The pain has been too intense and too often...<p>at peace<p>[ May 02, 2002: Message edited by: at peace ]</p>
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My H had (is having) an A at 9 years, we married after 5 months i don't know. I believe its a depression thing, things get stale, what ever, its still awful [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
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His affair: 1 year of marriage (together 2 before that)<p>Mine: 14 years of marriage (maybe a double seven year itch?? lol)
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I know the 7 year itch (or thereabouts) applies in my M. I started dating my wife in 1979. We dated, lived together on and off for the next 6 years. At the beginning of the 7th year together (1985), while we were living together, my W began an affair with a co-worker (actually her boss) that lasted about 2 months. I discovered it when I found hidden phone bill totalling over $100.00 for calls my W made to OM while he was on a one week business trip in Fla.<p>Anyway, we reconciled and were married later that year. Then, in early 1993, after 7 1/2 years of marriage, my W had an affair with a friend from our Friday night couples Bible study which lasted about 2 months. Again, we reconciled (but not before I had my own revenge affair with the OM's wife). We never really worked on our marriage though.<p>Then, as my story here on MB has shown, my W began an affair with an old high school boyfriend in the fall of 2001 that lasted about 3 months (detect a pattern here?). After this latest A I learned of MB and have begun practicing the principles and becoming the best husband I can be. My wife has re-committed to our marriage and I believe we will recover and have the best years of our lives ahead of us.<p>So, three A's in 23 years, about one very 7.6 years! The seven year itch! I'll let you know what happens in 2010. HA HA!
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haha, what a great speculative thread [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>hmm, lets see, started dating in 1996, married in 1998, served papers in 2002:<p>that's 6 years for me. <p>Man, I didn't even make it to 7!<p>Jon
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Maybe we need some "scratchers" to help deal with the itch. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]
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My WH had his A while in our 17th year of marriage. Therefore, I believe that the number "7" is significant!
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Yep,
My H's affair was at the 7 year point. With 3 little boys at home no less... [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img]
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My H's affair occured when we knew each other since 25 years and we were married 20 years.
No 7 year itch for us..........
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