I found out that i am a big part of the Problem - 10/22/99 05:28 AM
Hello Everyone<P> Thanks for all your help & support I truly appreciate them. I went to counseling yesterday with the wife had told him thing are going better. We only had one problem that week & a great weekend. My wife brought up the fact that when she tells me some things that I will either not react or over react to them. He informed me that I need to learn to control & self-sooth myself so that my wife can feel more comfortable about telling me things that she needs to talk about. I told the counselor that I agreed so guess what he wants me to do. At first I was very excited doing an exercise with my W I felt that it would only bring us closer. But wait tell you here what I have to do. This is scary & a test.<P> My W gets 25 minutes to talk about her feelings, Thoughts & any thing she wants to. I have to sit there & take notes and not comment, Interrupt or get emotional over anything she says. At the end of her time I am supposed to summarize what I think she is trying to tell me. She can correct me. After five minuets I am not allowed to talk about any of this. Until three days later we will reverse it. The next day we go to counseling. <BR> He told my W to make notes if I interrupt, Respond or break the rule of no talking about this for three days, To let him know. I am praying that I can do this. I am very Excited to here her thoughts & feelings I hope I can handle what I have been praying for.<P>Thanks to all for you help<P><BR>The road is long but the patient shall reap great rewards.<BR> Their love for them self & their Spouse<P> Through the love of God I have made another Day<P> LotsofHope<P><P>------------------<BR>