To All,
Other than the A never occuring <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> What would your 1 Valentine's Day Wish be? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
That this stop affecting my chlid and allow some peace back in her life
That my H would recognize what I needed from him & give it to me. (It's not like I haven't told him, but he doesn't seem to get it).
My wish is to have my W back for just 1 day and not have to deal with the WW and her Bill Clinton type mindset. Just 1 day where my children eould not have to worry about anything but the stuff a normal 12 & 13 year old would worry about. Just 1 day, just 1 day.
My wish would be for my WH just to say he is sorry he has caused so much pain and for him to really mean it. I think that would mean more to me than anything else he could do.
Hurting
That this stop affecting my chlid and allow some peace back in her life
That is heartbreaking to read.
This is why I hate infidels.
You can pummel an adult all you want, we can take it...but when you mess with a child.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Lem
I think it would be for WH to have HOPE that things can be different. Or maybe that he would WANT to have things be different.
Katie
i hope my wonderful wife of 15 years enjoys the CD I made for her of songs of love and romance from our time together. Mushy...yep!
My wish is that she accept and admit responsibility for the wake of damage she's caused in our family's life and come back home.......
That my kids learn all the right lessons from this situation...and not learn how to lie, cheat, and steal better than daddy...
To have the custody battle for OC be over.
I wish that I could trust my husband the way I used to
That I could go back and be less right and more loving towards my ex-wife. That my love would have been more evident and effective than it ever was. That she could/would realize that she was loved, even if imperfectly, that there was nothing that couldn't be forgiven.
I wish I was better able to give both voice and action to the love I had for her in my heart.
T
I would want my H to tell me that he loves me and only me and is sorry for what he did to our marriage. I would want him to tell me that he realized what a mistake it was to get involved with OW. He never could say he was sorry and that hurts.
My H has always thought that Valentine's day is an over-commercialized holiday made to get get people to spend money. (How romantic huh?) Funny thing was he never seemed to think that way when OW around. He actually wanted to buy her cards and flowers and did a few times in their time together. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
I want the same as Katie. For him to see hope in our relationship. Give us a chance and try to work on it. Instead of shutting me out.
Maybe just a kiss would also be nice.
This is tough....
I'm in recovery and my H is very sorry for what happens and wishes everyday that he could take it back...so I feel selfish asking for anything...some aren't as lucky...but everyone here is on the right path.
My Valentine's wish would be to feel safe again...to feel as confident in my H as I did before. He was always my hero and I held him on a great pedastal that wouldn't be reached by anyone.....now I realize he's human. And I would like to remove the sadness from my heart.
I'm thankful to be where we are in our M...and I realize the A can't be taken back.
To have a 'normal' Valentines Day.
My valentine wish would be is for my heart to keep healing....and stay protected from bitterness and anger....and regain the ability to love my H again.
I'd have to third Katie's comment. That my wife could have not only the hope, but the confidence that things can be better than either of us can imagine.
My wish was to feel special and cherished by my H. To see that he was willing to put some effort into saving our marriage and to hear a heartfelt apology for his behaviour - not just regret for the damage caused by being caught.
Wholeheartedly agree with comment above. My H says that he is sorry for the hurt that he has caused me, but he continues to do the same thing!! I now think that he is only sorry that I found out about it.
Georgina.
Valentine's Wish:
For my Valentine to be home instead of out of town. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
I appreciate everyone's responses and I feel the same as all of you. Each and every one of these wishes could be mine and if I could grant them to you I certainly would without a moments hesitation!
Thank you all for your posts. My heart goes out to each and every one of you and your WS. I wish you all the best of luck and success in your journey.
God bless all of you and may your wishes come true, if not today, on another day very soon.
Today I have taken comfort in knowing that unlike my WH, my Lord will not abandon me, fail me or leave me. I have made Him my Valentine today.
My Ultimate Valentine today..."For God so love the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him, should not perish, but have everlasting life." John 3:16 I think that is real love.
Katie
My wish would be that my Dday was not Valentines Day. It just reminds me of the day I felt like my safe little world had fallen apart.
My wish was to feel special and cherished by my H. To see that he was willing to put some effort into saving our marriage and to hear a heartfelt apology for his behaviour - not just regret for the damage caused by being caught.
I can't say it any better...
To have my family back home, safe and warm, with my WW just being my W.
My wish would be that WW would have set me down and expressed some of her unmet needs and unhappiness before D-Day. After D-Day there were so many other emotions clouding the issues I don't think she knows what was going thru her mind anymore. At least we could have talked about it in a rational and less emotional environment.