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To All,

Other than the A never occuring <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> What would your 1 Valentine's Day Wish be? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


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That this stop affecting my chlid and allow some peace back in her life


I am so lost Because life is as brief as it is, let us not waste precious time destroying one another, but rather nourish the strength and encourage the weakness of each other with hope
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That my H would recognize what I needed from him & give it to me. (It's not like I haven't told him, but he doesn't seem to get it).


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DD 6, DS 4, DD 3, DD 2, DS 2
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My wish is to have my W back for just 1 day and not have to deal with the WW and her Bill Clinton type mindset. Just 1 day where my children eould not have to worry about anything but the stuff a normal 12 & 13 year old would worry about. Just 1 day, just 1 day.


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My wish would be for my WH just to say he is sorry he has caused so much pain and for him to really mean it. I think that would mean more to me than anything else he could do.


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BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
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That this stop affecting my chlid and allow some peace back in her life

That is heartbreaking to read.

This is why I hate infidels.

You can pummel an adult all you want, we can take it...but when you mess with a child.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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I think it would be for WH to have HOPE that things can be different. Or maybe that he would WANT to have things be different.

Katie


God grades on the cross, not the curve. WH-42/BS-41(Me) Married 23yrs S21, S19, D13 PA-7/04-now
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i hope my wonderful wife of 15 years enjoys the CD I made for her of songs of love and romance from our time together. Mushy...yep!

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My wish is that she accept and admit responsibility for the wake of damage she's caused in our family's life and come back home.......


There is a clock on the wall ticking. I don't know where it is or what time it is but she's waiting for something. Actually, I think I found the clock. I can't see it clearly enough to read it though....


BH (Me) 46
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Married 15 years
A began - 6/05
DDay - 7/30/05
Exposure - 8/1/05
D papers served 8/10/05
A continues....
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That my kids learn all the right lessons from this situation...and not learn how to lie, cheat, and steal better than daddy...

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Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
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To have the custody battle for OC be over.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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I wish that I could trust my husband the way I used to

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That I could go back and be less right and more loving towards my ex-wife. That my love would have been more evident and effective than it ever was. That she could/would realize that she was loved, even if imperfectly, that there was nothing that couldn't be forgiven.

I wish I was better able to give both voice and action to the love I had for her in my heart.

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I would want my H to tell me that he loves me and only me and is sorry for what he did to our marriage. I would want him to tell me that he realized what a mistake it was to get involved with OW. He never could say he was sorry and that hurts.

My H has always thought that Valentine's day is an over-commercialized holiday made to get get people to spend money. (How romantic huh?) Funny thing was he never seemed to think that way when OW around. He actually wanted to buy her cards and flowers and did a few times in their time together. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

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BW 42 WH 41 M 14 yrs ds12,dd7 PA ?? mo/yrs. Day 12/6/04, 3/20/05 and 9/2/05 "Fool me once, fool me twice, and he fooled me a third time?" I never really found out for sure...
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I want the same as Katie. For him to see hope in our relationship. Give us a chance and try to work on it. Instead of shutting me out.

Maybe just a kiss would also be nice.


Sweet P Me: BS-41 H: WH-40 (Oct) Kids: DD-18 DS-15 DS-6 Married 16yrs Together 19yrs D-day #1 6-2005 ILYBNILY D-day #2 8/2005 Found e-mail communication EA possible PA
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This is tough....

I'm in recovery and my H is very sorry for what happens and wishes everyday that he could take it back...so I feel selfish asking for anything...some aren't as lucky...but everyone here is on the right path.

My Valentine's wish would be to feel safe again...to feel as confident in my H as I did before. He was always my hero and I held him on a great pedastal that wouldn't be reached by anyone.....now I realize he's human. And I would like to remove the sadness from my heart.

I'm thankful to be where we are in our M...and I realize the A can't be taken back.


D-Day 11/20/03 BS-Me 30 WS- H 31 Kids- 4 / 11 both girls Recovery Began 3/22/2004 Thanks to this board and the people here.
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To have a 'normal' Valentines Day.


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My valentine wish would be is for my heart to keep healing....and stay protected from bitterness and anger....and regain the ability to love my H again.

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I'd have to third Katie's comment. That my wife could have not only the hope, but the confidence that things can be better than either of us can imagine.


Formerly known as brokenbird

BH (Me) - 38
WW (Magpie) - 31
Married 2001 (Together 8 years)
DS - 13
DD - 5
EA/PA - 9/05-12/05
D-Day - 11/05

Second separation. Working on me.

If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given to you.
John 15:7 (NIV)
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