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WHEW! Don't scare me like that! I just sent cd an emergency e-mail asking her to read this thread in case I did something I was not aware of.
I'll give you a graft of my "impervious backside"...
THAT is so cute!
I just ignore the nonsense on this board (cm's little dig, in this case).
What? Is SHE back? Did she diss me? Was there a little dig I missed? That B____! Hahaha...just kidding! I don't ignore the nonsense on the board which is my failing as an evolved human being. I tend to use the nonsense as my OW in effigy and know it. I'm sorry. I'll work on it.
And you're completely within your rights to express your frustration at what's gone on here.
Oh, thank you. I was so worried I wasn't allowed to express. I am trying to save it for my book and dump it there. I have such a problem with being restricted and forced to eat pud.
I thought I validated that (but I'm a guy, so what the heck would I know about empathy---hydraulics, sure!).
And what a guy....
My reference to you about feistiness was about years past,
And what would any of us be without a measure of feistiness? Milquetoast and doormats...ugh. That's about as unattractive as jock itch.
"How fat is your OW?
I am so glad you asked. About the size of a VW....sorry (hahaha) for taking advantage of taking your post out of context. I just couldn't resist. Thanks for the perfect set up. Hahaha
I sometimes find those equally frustrating (because I don't believe that they help the healing process), but I left you guys alone for that too.
THAT is where we differ. It DOES help. During the first 18 months after discovery, pointing out the OW's vast physical imperfections are an excellent therapeutic way of releasing anger, validating oneself as a superior catch (which almost all husbands come to realize) and certainly helped me in my healing process. And I dare say, helped legions of other Betrayeds deal with their mistaken feelings of inadequacy and put them on the path to recovery. (ref: Zebra Baby's hilarious "moustache" thread) It's all in fun and this should be one place where this is occasionally OK as long as we stick to the reasons why we are here and the principles. We have to be able to laugh at our tormentors or they end up being taken too seriously.
So yeah, I'm thinking you completely misread me.
Oh, good. I am so relieved.
I love you very deeply---I have a great deal of admiration for who you are and how you've dealt with your life since you've been here.
I love you, too and thank you so much to notice my somewhat nebulous evolution...that's why I was so worried I said something wrong the first five minutes I came back. But, it would be completely characteristic of me to do something to spoil things right off the bat, that's why I asked cd to do a reality check because I've been under enormous stress and not myself lately.
Lets switch the subject. You're in MN right now, correct? Moving locally, continentally, or globally???
I am in MN and moving out of an apartment I receive in lieu of wages since I am a property/office manager and back into my house on the lake within the next couple weeks. The delay is due to the refurbishing Bipolar and I have been doing to the house. The changes are amazing and we did it all on a shoestring. We managed to refinance at a lower interest rate and still get enough money out of it to make some improvements that will increase the equity substantially. We re-stoned our three fireplaces, refinished the hardwood floors, put in all new woodwork and doors, finished the basement (sheetrock, carpeting, woodwork and a REAL plaster ceiling, and added the cutest bath and a bedroom with an egress, painted every room and wallpapered the master bedroom and it is all damn darling. I am so excited. The exterior is being re-sided in cedar, with new soffits, facia and gutters in the fall with a loan through my city that we do not have to repay until we sell the house. Bipolar works for a company that is tearing down some office buildings and there are landscaping rocks that we were lucky enough to get for our yard. These rocks are ENORMOUS. I am so excited.
I hate moving...
I hear ya...this is our fifth move since the trouble started but our move is symbolic of us coming "full circle" to where we were and where we want to be. K, you would not believe Bipolar. He has been sober one year on June 24, he is on his meds, he has not uttered one unkind word and instead of everything being me, me, me; his focus is me and the marriage and I am so proud of him and respect him so much for fighting to regain what was lost and doing the tuff stuff instead of wimping out and bailing. He didn't take the easy way out and I have so much admiration for him. He is quite a guy. He is so happy and at peace most of the time, except when we are forced to deal with some of this old stuff. Then the sadness and regret take over for a while. I wish he could get over it. He deserves a break, some peace. Most of all, he deserves justice.
Glad we resolved this misunderstanding...you're a peach for quickly responding so I wouldn't have to spend the rest of the day blue. Thanks...
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