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"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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I read the threads from the your reply. Got some good thoughts from it but I think they were too late. Found out WS was spending LOTS and LOTS of "OUR" money which has now turned into his money. Made mistake of exposing his lies over the phone now, WS said he is now filing for divorce not separtion and said he he doesn't want to be with me and doesn't love me.
Again my question how do you know "FOG" from truth??
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"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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I must get around to updating this with the last six months of progress !
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Bobpure -
I just wanted to say Hi! Hope you are very well. You so helped me through the first part of my discovery period. I will never forget you for that -
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Bob all I can say is thank you. I am also happy for you. You are lucky and worked hard for this. God Bless
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OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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Hi kim & realtor !
Just 'living' for a while. Had some "non-A" drama (MIL died) and other stuff so we've just been LIVING not recovering. And it feels good to be honest !
All blessings to you.
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Hi there Mr. Pure!! Very good to see things are calming down. The whole dying MIL thing is VERY stressful and "otherworldly". Like being in our own little fog or trance, keeping the emotions in check, or trying to, until they pass. The Holidays were hard for us..first Christmas without my MIL. We put her picture in an ornament and hung her on the tree, looking over us. We should find out how to keep your MB toolkit on the first page of this and the "just found out" sections. Everyone keep bumping this for all the newbies. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> k
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D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Must read for new betrayed spouses
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DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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i've been reading some of the posts from the links on this thread. here issomething that i will hold in my heart as i hope my H's A ends and the possibility of recovery and reconciliation begins KNOWING
Have you ever heard people say, "You will just KNOW when you are ready to divorce?" and people who have not been there wonder, "HOW DO YOU KNOW?? What is this mysterious knowing?" Well there comes a day when you can't fool yourself anymore--you "know." Maybe you stop the denial and accept the plain truth right in front of you...or maybe you come to a point where you just can't convince yourself anymore...or maybe (like it was for me) you reach a point where you made yourself a promise and that line was crossed again and you "know" that you can not trust YOURSELF.
I believe it is somewhat similiar for a WS. It may not be all in one day or suddenly, but there does come a point at which WS just stops the denial. With some of their heart and some of their ego, they want the OP to be an honorable, kind, gentle soul worthy of their love and devotion...because if the OP really is the sneaky snake that the facts seem to indicate, then how could they have left home, family, commitments for someone like that? See? There's a little...well...pleasant denial in thinking that the A was a growing experience and positive. There's also a hint of "saving face" if the A was something that they "had to do" in order to grow as a person and become more spiritually mature.
[color:"blue"] But eventually, the WS can "know" because they stop the denial. [/color] OP really was deceptive. OP really did use me. OP really was not thinking of me at all. OP did not find me valuable. OP did not ACT in ways that were loving.
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Bump for all the new people. There is hope and many have made it. Don't give up!!
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Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
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Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
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