Finish exposure to all of OM married friends and family. If you belong to a church, expose there also.
You should also expose on www.cheaterville.com.

Finish exposure ASAP, then demand that she ends her affair.
If she refuses then I would ask her to move out because this is horrible, for her to dress up and tell you she's going on a date with OM. It is evil disgusting behavior.

Who has young children? You or OM?

Tell her you need to contact his parents because you are trying to save your marriage.

Do you have a picture of this loser?

You need to try harder to track him down. Don't give up so easily. Go search his EX's facebook page to see if you can find any of his relatives. Then go to that relatives page and find his family members.

We can't have kids another issue of ours.
Tried searching OM before but I will continue trying. Want immediate results but can't have them! No pictures but will try to find/get.
Can't get her to move out if I wanted property all in her name, she is not exactly flaunting it but rubbing my nose in it all the same.

SHE is trying to save her marriage?? What is she doing to end the affair in that case? Does she understand the affair is ongoing?

Will she help you in killing the affair?

Or did you mean you are trying to save the marriage?

Can you call her up and tell her you are trying to save your marriage and ask her for contact information for OM's family? Would she give it to you?

Told her trying to save my marriage hers ended years ago and only contact is through the kids. She is unwilling to get involved. My wife was friends with her once!

Did she flat-out refuse to give you contact info for him?

How do you come to have contact with his ex but no details for him?

Wants nothing to do with him.
My wife due back any minute, I have spoken to her briefly today and its going to be a frosty night!

Ex on Fb but limited profile

She won't help you? All she has to do is give you the name and contact info of his parents and family. They don't have to EVER know that intel came from her.

Awaiting reply from ex. Although not hopeful. How should I behave around wife tonight? Probably be on here with her not talking to me! And what if ex can't help and further exposure not possible?

Ok she's just come in mad as hell not wanting to talk to me telling me she doesn't care about my opinion because I was nasty to her last night. I restated the issue isn't our friendship but the affair. We are still married its still adultery. I said if we are meant to be friends we shouldn't hurt each other. She came back with she's had enough of the hurt I've caused her over the years and why should she have to put up with this in own home. I explained our home regardless of deeds money etc. my issue isn't about money but that she's carrying on affair right under my nose. Voices were getting raised so I told her I'm moving to another room until she's ready to talk. Again she threatens to sell house and move back with her mother. I tell her she's the one now being nasty about things I'm trying to remain polite and civil. She however is still angry saying she's got enough friends. So here I sit alone waiting for her to calm down or probably go out!

She also commented that I've made efforts over the past few weeks because I knew another man was on scene and couldn't be bothered to care before. I admitted I did care but didn't show it. Too little too late she says and I reply better late than not at all. I remain committed to saving our friendship but not at the cost of her affair. Her birthday Thursday what a build up!

Are her kids visible?

You know, your short, rather cryptic posts are hard work. We have to keep posting again to ask you what you mean.

A post to this forum isn't a text message. You can write in proper sentences. The more fully you answer our questions, the more relevant advice we can give.

My posts are cryptic because I'm on my phone guess its a habit thing. Must read that section again. Her kids too young for FB. The ex has a closed profile due to job, will not accept friend request.

Bluebeck, can you please stop posting her fogbabble and focus entirely on blowing up this affair? The most important thing is your plan to ruin the affair and run the OM off.