Is moving an option?

That 13 hour drive twice per week could be whittled down significantly if it were reduced to a more reasonable transportation time and leave each of those two travel days into the very achievable goal of scheduling two of 4 hour dates right there.

Now, you would only have to prioritize 7 additional hours for romantic dates.

LTL

Maybe I should have asked if making your marriage a priority is enough of an incentive to Choose to Want to move to provide the necessary 2 dating sessions of 4 hours each.

That's similar to each and every obstacle in your path to achieving the desired goal of meeting a minimum of 15 hours of romantic dates per week.

You are not there yet, but what will undoubtedly happen when your Love Bank goes completely dry on the destined current path you are on?

Will there possibly be some emotional needs that one of you seek out, especially you, since you are the one partner experiencing the lack of a Love Bank balance?

Read through the Surviving An Affair subforum on here to see how prevalent affairs are and quite often by people who swore on their life that one would be impossible for them to ever consider. They occur when one spouse either Actively solicits an illicit secretive relationship, or more commonly, when one spouse needs the consoling emotional support from someone other than their own spouse, seemingly quite innocent at first, then bursting with unbridled infatuation. I don't feel that is a path you currently desire, yet it Will become an option down the road if you remain emotionally deprived and starved.

Or, will you become so calloused by the state of the status quo that a Divorce may someday seem like a viable option?

Now, how would any of those scenarios better Anyone in your Family, including your Husbands Son?

Those That Think That They Can, Do.....

Those That Think They Can Not, Don't.....

Do you think that you Can or Can Not?

LTL

mm, this is really common. It is usually the wife who is the first to sense that there are problems in the marriage.

What you're going to need to do is to become a bit more insistent that your husband do something about these problems. You can see why some things are a problem for one spouse but not the other. Lack of sex - not a problem for many wives, because that's a more typical male emotional need. Lack of conversation - not a problem for most husbands, because that's a more typical female emotional need.

Lack of time together is typically not a problem for most husbands. They may have all sorts of reasons why you shouldn't feel it is a problem, either, but you need to be a bit assertive that it IS a problem and keep bringing it up, insistently, and keep this on the front burner until it is dealt with.

So, what problems DO you see in the marriage? We're sure your husband doesn't agree, that's typical, but what problems do you see?

In my experience, when a wife is saying that it's impossible to get the 15 hours, this is what it almost always comes down to. Her husband won't make the time because he doesn't see that there are problems and he doesn't see it as being important enough to modify his schedule for.

This is why you are going to need to be more insistent to him that you need him to do this. Yes it's a big life change, no it's not easy, it wasn't easy for anyone here. But it's as predictable as sunrise that marriages where the husband and wife don't make time for each other die.

You're seeing that - what problems are you seeing?