I just really want to honor his request - what if this whole thing is all just a test?

it very well could be. my H calls the phone tap a "sneaky snooper"... he always found out about it before i could get the information that i thought i needed.

i think i would tap the phone but you need be very, very careful that he does Not find out. also be very careful of what you hear. what if you hear that he is talking "nonsense" to this ow? would you be able to hold it in until an opportune time? ...and hold off on the email checking (unless you can get away with it) for a bit.

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