I don't know about snooping, although his behavior is suspicious but I think his waffling is a good sign. Maybe you can approach the phone thing as a
"let's give it one last try and then, you will be able to decide..."

Just a suggestion.....


"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther

Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!