It's definitely a good sign that he is willing to do phone counseling with the Harleys-they are the experts in this area.

Have you heard of the book Respect and Love? The main thing men need is respect from their wives. I'm sure your A has been a huge slap in the face to him.

That book recommends you write a letter to him letting him know what you respect about him. I'd recommend reading the book first and getting some input from BH's on this forum to see if that would be a good idea right now.

It's just a suggestion from my little world and not being a man, I may be off base. Any one else?


"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther

Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!