Don't be worried about the Harleys session. They are GREAT, and always try to save the marriage, unless there is abuse.

Personally, I don't think your husband is going to want a divorce. He is getting all the typical advice from friends who haven't been through this. He is hurt and angry and is acting out.

At first, you are going to need to do the heavy lifting of recovery, and you need to take care of yourself and have some support to do that.