3. To make calls he doesn't want me to hear

BINGO!!!!!

I'm very hopeful about your appointment with the Harley's. They are usually able to help very quickly.

As far as him being nicer after you ignored him, I think that is kind of a male thing. Most women are better at talking than men. I've noticed the same thing about my ex. Whenever he wasn't in a good mood, I would just do my own thing, cooking, cleaning, etc.